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how can I deal w/a pushy bridesmaid/sil?
my sil and I are in my cousin's wedding in aug and I am have difficulty in dealing with her and not causing problems. we just started talking again after not really speaking and she is being way too pushy for me when planning the bridal shower. all of the bridesmaids were given areas that they are in charge of and she keeps overstepping what I am suppose to be doing, it would be fine but she does not want anyone overstepping what she is doing which is fine. I am in charge of driving to whiteplains to pickup the gift(fina china, only carried at that store), which everyone agreed on and now she wants to join me. I had orginally planned to go to the white plains mall with the hubby and kids and then on my way home pickup the gift. would it be mean to tell her that I dont need her to go with me? afterall, it doesnt take two people to get a gift off of her registry, how should I deal with this?
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Re: how can I deal w/a pushy bridesmaid/sil?
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nah i dont think so, you already made other plans as part of your day to do it. You dont need any extra body tagging along.
i would just say you dont' need help - jen&louie had a great way to word it.
however, if she's nagging others i'd let it go -
I was MOH in my sisters wedding and her SIL was such a royal PITA she annoyed the crap out of me for months and months... I did finally have to "put her in her place" so to speak because it was really out of hand - so if it gets to that point let the MOH knock her down a few pegs if she's tryin to overstep all boundaries.
No, I just think it means you have a lot going on and are being efficient by fitting the gift pick up in to your schedule. Don't dwell on it too much, the important part is that you are fulfilling your obligation. Why would it take two people to pick up a gift anyway?
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I don't understand why you can't just tell her you have plans and don't need help? Why does this need to be bigger than it is (telling her the truth since you don't need some cover up story if you already planned it out).
maybe she just wants to spend time with you or something.
it's not a big deal to thank her for the offer and tell her that you'll be in the area with your hubby and kids and will pick it up then - no need for a separate trip.
I don't think so... if she pushes just tell her the truth that you will have your family with you and you don't want to make a separate trip for the gift when you can get it then...