September 2009 Weddings
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RSVP question (I feel like I'm on The Knot again)

Say you receive a baby shower invitation that says this at the bottom:

"RSVP to [Host's Name] at (555)-555-5555 or host@hotmail.com by April 25th."

You plan to attend. Do you call or email this person to let her know you're coming?  Or do you assume "RSVP" means "Regrets Only?" (Even though the invitation clearly doesn't say Regrets Only, it says RSVP.)  Most people understand RSVP'ing when it comes to weddings, but I feel as though there's some confusion when it comes to more informal events.

My shower hosts told me so far they've only heard from people who *aren't* coming even though everyone invited has had the invitation for almost two weeks.  Two of my friends have told ME they're coming, so I assume they felt they didn't need to tell my hosts.  I realize some people might be waiting til the last minute to RSVP, but there's an email address on the invite, you'd think most people could drop a simple email within two weeks.  I feel bad that my hosts are stressing that they won't hear from everyone in the next 6 days...

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Re: RSVP question (I feel like I'm on The Knot again)

  • When I see "RSVP", I call or email right away usually.

    Do these people not know the difference between RSVP and Regrets Only?

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  • I think unless it says "regrets only" people should be responding. They may be waiting till the last min. A lot of my friends would respond to me and I would tell them to let the host know too. It's not up to you to be the middle man. A lot of times you will have to contact people to find out if they're coming which is annoying but I know its happened to me before.
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  • For my co-worker's baby shower, I RSVP'd via the email they provided.  Granted, I RSVP'd like 2 weeks before the event and I'd had the invitation for a few weeks already.  I think that RSVPs mean you let the person know if you're coming or not.
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  • I would email the host at least a week before the RSVP date, and if I was unsure and needed to wait til the last minute, I'd email to let them know that.
  • Ok, that's what I figured. I wish you guys were coming to my shower, all of you are courteous! I don't know what's up with my friends! Indifferent
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  • When I read RSVP, I assume that means I need to respond either way, no matter how informal the occasion. Who knows what people are thinking though. In my experience, most people are pretty inconsiderate when it comes to responding to invitations!

    GL!

  • Ditto pp, I see RSVP as reply either way, and I feel like that is the norm.

    And thanks for reminding me to RSVP to a baby shower (the deadline is not until next week, I swear!)

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  • To me it means call if you ARE coming. But, I know that a lot of people tend to ignore that ettiquette and show up anyway.

    Also, if you're registry stalking, I found that the majority of my guests didn't buy anything until the night before the shower.

  • To mean, RSVP means let them know one way or the other.  If they wanted regrets only, they would mark it so.
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