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pain and discomfort
Does anyone else have pain and discomfort during sex. I use to think it was because I had endometriosis, but now I'm not sure. I have almost no sex drive because I already know I'm not going to enjoy it like I should. To be honest, for me an orgasm is even painful with oral sex. My old OB/GYN just prescribed pain killers that didn't help, he didn't really seem to interested in helping the issue further. I cring through the pain and discomfort for my husband, it's not his fault, and why should he not enjoy having sex. We use massive amounts of lube, which helps a tiny bit, but I dry up so quickly that's it's even frustrating or him. I need to find a new OB/GYN and soon.
Has anyone else had any experiences even close to this, I'm willing to try anything.
Re: pain and discomfort
Agreed.
This exactly!
I had a ton of pain and discomfort during sex for the first three years of our marriage. Our sex life went from amazing to non existant. I then found out after several nights of waking in immense pain that I had an ovarian cyst the size of a soft ball. After pain killers to get through the nights and surgery in which I gave up my right ovary I found out that I had a very severe case of endometriosis. I also found out that there are different levels of endometriosis and different activity levels as well. I had a very bad case and we do not know if it was a very active case, but we are hoping not. I have a great doc now and I'm very comfortable discussing my issues with him. I hope you can find a good doctor for yourself. Do internet checks and also ask some of your friends, or if your friend has a doctor they like, but doesn't specialize ask if they can ask for a recommendation. I wish you the best of luck. Things like this make it so hard in a relationship. Just remember there are answers you just need to keep asking untill someone is willing to work with you.
TMI warning:
I went to the doctor with horrible pain with sex with FI, at first he and i were fine everything was great and when my anxiety attacks started coming back sex was painful, i couldnt get wet and i had no drive. my ob is really great and we talked for a good hour about it. we came to the conclusion that my body went through 'trama' with an infection i had and that we would have to ease in to sex again. she said to start with him doing one finger with lots of lube and basicly it would be like loosing my v-card again. i would recomend that, she said it would take about a month to get to where i would probably be ok witht he real deal. it worked for me and i hope it works for you!
feel free to pm me if you need to talk or have any questions!