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How should I go about this?

I have a coworker (a temp coworker at that) that is offering me all these maternity clothes.  She keeps telling me she'll bring in some clothes for me.  I never mentioned anything about needing maternity clothes to her, she just keeps offering and telling me she'll bring them in.  I know she's trying to be nice, but I really don't feel comfortable with it.  I mean, I don't even know that she'll be working here past June, so how would I even give these back to her?  Plus she looks to be a totally different size, so I'm not even sure the clothes she's offering will fit me.  She also brings it up when we're talking with other people, so I feel awkward saying "Oh, no thanks, I'm all set".  It's an all around weird situation.  I probably should have said that from the beginning, but I didn't want to come off as rude or mean.   Any ideas of how I can go about dealing with this? 
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Re: How should I go about this?

  • Be gracious. I *loved* my maternity clothes, so for me to offer them to someone else has to mean I really like that person and trust them with my stuff. :)

    Just say something like, "Oh, that'd be so sweet." If she ever brings them in, accept them with a smile. Go through them at home on your own time. You might be surprised at how big you get towards the end; I was for sure wearing things that "weren't my size" pre-pg. Actually, it was difficult finding things that fit, and I *did* have a generous friend/sis helping clothe me!

    Make sure to ask for her address if it happens that she won't be working there, under the premise of "so I can get these back to you when the baby is born." Even if you don't wear a single piece of them, return the bags/boxes with a gift card for Starbucks to acknowledge her thoughtfulness. Consider it a lesson in accepting oddball things from people who are just trying to be nice and helpful as you embark on this crazy awesome ride. :) Practice for those weird shower gifts, if you will. ;)

  • I would go up to her personally and say thanks for the offer on the maternity clothes but I am all set with everything I need. Maybe you could donate them to Goodwill where someone who can't afford any maternity clothes that would really be in need of them. Something along the lines of that.
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  • I was *nice* and accepted the offer from some people but the truth is, they sat in a box the whole time because they weren't my style plus I could afford to buy my own.  Now, if I didn't want to or couldn't spend money on new clothes, that would have been a different story.  I'd also tell her you are all set and would feel terrible taking the clothes knowing there is someone more deserving of them who may not be able to afford them.

  • I would say if she brings them in, sort through them and see what she has. Even if you can get a few basic shirts out of it, they will come in handy. There will be days you don't go out or you need to change 1/2 way through the day, that you a plain basic t-shirt will be great. Or even if you don't plan on wearing loose maternity shirts with the tie in the back and want to wear fitted shirts, there are days that your belly feels so tight that a big shirt is awesome!
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