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Sofaking pissed - a rant
Sorry, this will be long and boring and ranty. I just need to get it out.
My parents bought a nice ($1k) crib when my niece was born 9 years ago, with the plan that it would be passed down from my sister to me. She's been storing it for me in her garage for the past 7 years. She would periodically lightheartedly complain to me about storing it, always saying that "it's yours whenever you're ready" and so on. Around the wedding, we were chatting and I told her that we were going to try after the wedding. She again said that the crib was mine when I was ready. I volunteered at that time to store it at our house, since I finally have a place with room to do that. She said no, it was fine, and to just move it once when I was ready.
I found out last night, by asking if we could pick it up when we go to their house in May, that she lent it to her H's sister, who had a baby around December. As in, very shortly after I told her that we're actively trying to get pg. Her H and his whole family are notorious for not taking care of things, not to mention the fact that they'll still need to use it during the time I'd need to use it.
I was talking on the phone to my mom with my sister in the background when I found this all out, and my sister actually said, 'just go to Kmart, the quality is the same.' 
(Their second crib, because the first was still in use when the 2nd kid came along, was from Kmart and was an obvious pile of crap.)
So the crib is done. My mom offered to buy us a crib, but I was (selfishly, counting my chickens before they're hatched) hoping she would buy us this beautiful stuffed rocker from PB Kids that I'm in love with.
I am just baffled and hurt, and can't believe she'd do this.
The bright side is that we can afford to buy our own crib, and this way I'll be able to buy what I want (I'd prefer dark wood and that one is light), and to get a matching dresser and changing table, but damn, she sucks.
And if you read this, thank you. I'd PIP you a cookie, but I suck at PIP.
Re: Sofaking pissed - a rant
Your sister sounds like my SIL!!! I'm sorry you're going through this and welcome to the wonders! People get crazy when you are pregnant and have a kid (this might get worse when baby is here fyi). Buy your own crib since you know what you want and let your mom buy your rocker still. I have a beautiful crib from E that her great aunt bought her and my SIL asked for it and I flat out told her no. They broke my bassinet (only like $60 so bfd) I let them use our carseat only because the age limit is up by the time we would need it, I let her have a bunch of E's baby clothes and purposely took out all of the Gymboree stuff because I knew she'd ruin it.
Moral of the story- learn how to be a hard arse right now! Say no and stick to your guns momma things will get crazier and worse! ((Hugs))
I love that this is probably the 10th post I've read in the past couple of days where someone has said sofaking. My amusement aside, that really sucks your sister did that. You'd think she'd give it to you before her SIL.
But the good news is at least you get to get the color you like.
And now I want cookies. Damn.
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I would be pi$$ed so I do not blame you for wanting to gauge her eyes out.
That being said - at least now you get to buy the baby furniture that YOU actually want rather than what your sister wanted. And it's probably way prettier because you probably have way better taste :-)
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Not going to post-jack, but I whole-heartedly agree w/ Jessie's statements. Remember that 'No.' is a complete sentence and don't be afraid of pissing people off...you only get this 'first time' experience once and you shouldn't let anyone ruin it for you.
This.
Behind a little, but catching up. That sucks Mush. I had a similar situation, but my Dad made the crib I used, so when Dad and Stepmom moved they called me to see if I wanted it (for our kids) or they would get rid of it. Yeah, I wanted it, but I hadn't seen it in forever. Got it home and realized that it will need a little work to be safe for a little one in the future and it's not REALLY something I "like"... so I am considering whether it'll actually be used for our kids or not. I feel bad NOT using it, and I don't want to hurt Dad's feelings, but I just think it'll be easier to buy a convertible (into toddler bed and so on) one than try to fix this one up....
That probably made NO sense, but I wanted to add it anyway.