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So, ausbrolm DD'ed her SIL wedding rant
new sil rant
soo... My husband and I just got married two months ago. His brother and fiance just threw together a wedding in one month to get married in april. They were both in my wedding. I swear she didn't do any planning herself and just took all my ideas and used them for hers. First of all she sent out the exact same invites I did. Then when we got to the wedding the song I walked down the aisle to played right before the processional started. Then I had a groomsmens cake that had ducks on it and I swear she took two of the ducks off of our groomsmens cake (other people took them too) and put them on their groomsmens cake. WHile she was planning her wedding she asked me the songs we danced to at the wedding and I gave them to her and she used the exact same song that me and my father in law and my husband and my mom danced too. (We did one inlaws dance) for her mom and my brother in law to dance too. She also used almost the exact same champaigne glasses and cake cutters. I am just really confused as to why she would do this.,.... There is also a lot more to it but I don't wanna go through it all... I worked really hard for one whole yr to plan my wedding and she then just threw hers together in less then a month. I just was in shock??
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Re: So, ausbrolm DD'ed her SIL wedding rant
I'd delete it too if I posted somethng that dumb
No, no, no. You have it wrong. This is a message board. A place where somebody posts a message, and other people reply. If you're looking for a support service, or a therapy board, you're going to have to go somewhere else.
And, for the record, you don't need support here. You need to grow up, act like an adult, and move the fvck on. Your post made you sound like a spoiled, snobby, judgmental, self-righteous brat. And, really, this follow up post doesn't paint you in a much better light.
Actually, this is a site where the Nest/Knot gets to run their advertising. If you get some help, great. If no one validates you, sucks to be you.
Bonus penalty for multiple uses of "yall". You still need to get over it.
Ok I will talk to you like a grown up. Someone using the same or similar items of your own wedding is a compliment not an insult. It is a sign of similar, "good" taste in which your wedding was so wonderful, it made your SIL turn to her H and say "I want mine exactly like this." Essentially, based on your time lines, she and H sat at your wedding and said to themselves "I want to be a part of Ausbrolm and her H's love."
You reaction is immature because you think that it is about competition and jealousy. It has nothing to do with that. It has to do with marriage. It has to do with the two people getting married. Your love is not diminished by her love because she used all your details. Would you rant and rave if she happened to have all the same details in her wedding but her wedding was first? Would you have changed your whole wedding because she had it first? If you do, you weren't ready to get married and you shouldn't have married this man.
It is stupid to get insulted. Her wedding has nothing to do with you other than she likes your taste, which is a good thing btw. You really think this is a hill worth dying on? You are potentially damaging your future family ties because of your ego. Get over yourself and suck it up. Life works like this sometimes.
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Well bless your heart, you must be from the South. :Disclaimer, I can make fun of the South as I am also from the South:
ausbrolm, if that was your original post, I feel for you.
Sure sure, nobody likes a show off so I am sure this is in bad taste, but for me, the reception is a place to through one bad a$$ party that would be remembered by all as a bad a$$ party.
A lot of people put a lot of effort into making their reception special and while people say imitation is the best form of flattery it is not so fun when the imitation was something that you put a lot of effort into and somebody else is reveling in instead of you. We were not there, we don?t know how similar it was.
This story sounds like the sil was just in a hurry to get hitched and she wanted to put together the best wedding she could quickly ? that means she didn?t have much time to put in a lot of her own details and special aspects. She liked your wedding so she followed it closely ? that should be more of a ?sting? (since you feel she stole the memory of your special day) than an insult (she would be pretty dumb to think copying your wedding to be a good way to one-up you).
I'd say someone is a little too worried about what her SIL is doing if she noticed the cake cutter and champagne glasses. Is there really a wide variety of those items floating out there in the world?
The only thing guests would really notice (I think) is if the brides are wearing the same dresses and if the weddings are in the same location. Even the dresses wouldn't be noticeable unless the weddings are back to back, like these weddings were. I doubt people remember the songs you danced to. I have to think hard to remember some of the songs people danced to at my own wedding! No one cared but you. And even if people noticed it, it would reflect poorly on her, not you.
So just chill out and send her a bill for the wedding planning you did. (That's a joke).