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S&R Related: MIL's mad
So, DH and I had sex a week or so ago (have since then, but the one that relates to this story was then). We got some bodily fluids on the quilt on our bed, that MIL made. I had pretreated the spot, and put it in the laundry basket to be washed. Well, MIL was here visiting this week, and saw the quilt in the laundry and asked about it. I said it was dirty, and was going to wash it the next day (honestly was).
Over the course of the next day, she asked me 3 times what we could've possibly got on it. I couldn't think fast enough, so I just told her she didn't want to know. I realize this only made her want to know more, but I wasn't fast enough to think of a good response (DH later said he would've told her ginger ale, but she didn't ask him).
So, I put it in the wash the next day as I planned, and when it came out, I looked and thought the spot had come out. Aparently, according to DH, MIL took a closer look at it and found a tiny little spot still there. Well, now she's mad that we got the quilt stained for (in her words) "not taking good enough care of it." 
I guess what I should've told her when she asked what it was that we were trying to give her grandchildren. lol That would've shut her up real quick. 
Re: S&R Related: MIL's mad
I'm so glad I'm not the only that feels this way completely. It's not like we were eating something and got a stain on it or being careless with it.
I haven't seen that movie yet, but now I need to RedBox it!
Well, I give her a little slack since she did the take the time to handmake it for us (it fits a full size bed). But we are working on boundaries with her. She would've never known, but she lives out of town and was visiting for the week. We live in a small 1-bedroom apartment, so sometimes boundaries get crossed. Trust me though, we're working on it.
My MIL has made DS 4 quilts, including one that fits on his full sized bed. She's perfectly aware that it might get dirty, and told me to let her know if it starts to fray after being washed so she can fix it.
Anyone examining my bedding that closely would creep me out.
My mom has made us 2 afghans. She would never be so rude as to tell us we're not taking good enough care of them. Nor would she badger either of us if it was in the laundry basket. Blankets get washed, there is nothing abnormal about that.
IMO, your MIL was extremely rude. That has nothing to do with boundaries, that has everything to do with sheer common sense and respect for others.
DH and I were talking about it last night, and he said he flat out told her (after the comment about us not taking good enough care of it) that if she wanted it to stay clean so badly, we would gladly put it away and never use it. lol
I'd have given it back to her, as well.
"Here, you take it and give it all the love and attention it deserves. I'll go buy a new one from a department store that doesn't come with strings."
Why in the world would anyone push to know what stain might be on bedding. She must have been looking to stir the pot. Hello it is a blanket on a married couple's bed...WHAT DO YOU THINK THE STAIN IS??? People are wierd!
I KNOW. I would have been all "oh yeah... you know... he was aiming for... (and then launch into a very graphic, raunchy, detailed story)" - and then say "was that what you were looking for? wtf do you think would be on bedding?"
That story is so awkward! MIL needs to mind her own business! I would be mortified if that happened to me!
When FI and I first got engaged, we went on a road trip to Omaha. We had sex in the hotel room, and since it was only our second or third time having sex (and i was a virgin when i met him, he was not) I bled a little bit on the sheets (the white sheets!) I was FREAKING OUT because I thought that the maids would see it when they took the sheets to be washed and they would somehow KNOW we had sex. I was so paranoid. So we went out and bought one of those bleach pens and tried furiously to get the stains out. I guess the moral of the story is don't have sex on white sheets if you are worried about bleeding.
1. I'd like to know why your MIL is looking at your dirty laundry?
2. Why is she around so often?
3. Why are you sharing any info with her?
4. Why you didnt hnd it back to her?
So what if it was on top of the basket. I find it weird that she would inspect a dirty item from a laundry basket even if it WAS on top. Yes....it was dirty. Hence, the reason it was in the dirty clothes. Am I off to find it super weird that she would look at anything in the dirty clothes basket? I just throw it in the machine.