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hz80408 · April 2011

Buh-bye

Xan921 · April 2011

Ugh, I am annoyed for you! All of that would p*ss me off so bad. Granted, like you said, your day has come and gone, but still, she needs to come up with her own ideas and stop stealing yours. It's like that episode of friends where Monica doesn't want to tell Rachel her ideal baby name because she knows Rachel will want it, and then as soon as she says it, Rachel names her baby that lol.

Your friend may just be caught up in the moment and not evening realizing she's copying you so much, or else she's just not creative at all and can't think of things herself...but either way, I'd be totally annoyed too.

Xan921 · April 2011

hz80408:

It's all she wants talk about (we live in diff cities, so via phone/text/email) and she rarely asked how my planning was going prior to our wedding.

This would get on my nerves too. I know I talked about the wedding non-stop prior to it and I am sure my friends/family got sick of hearing about it so I tend to be more understanding when other people are super excited about something now, but it's still annoying.

MC22 · April 2011

Xan921:

Your friend may just be caught up in the moment and not evening realizing she's copying you so much, or else she's just not creative at all and can't think of things herself...but either way, I'd be totally annoyed too.

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe she's not realizing just how much she's copying. But, yeah, I'd be annoyed, too. And that whole "copying is the highest form of flattery" saying annoys me too - haha! I mean, to some extent, sure. But that many things around one special event?

Honestly, though, I would let it slide. I mean, I know it will annoy you every time you think / hear about it, but it's probably not worth saying anything. Not sure that you were really thinking you would? Her wedding will be over soon enough and then you won't have to deal with it anymore.

And you never know - she could be giving you all kinds of credit for these things. "My friend, Hannah, wore these shoes for her wedding and I loved them!"

Side note - the saying for the Cubs jersey is adorable! Love it.

hz80408 · April 2011

Xan921:

Your friend may just be caught up in the moment and not evening realizing she's copying you so much, or else she's just not creative at all and can't think of things herself...but either way, I'd be totally annoyed too.

Thanks Xan...see the weird thing is that she's super creative! I feel like if she's not identically doing something similar to be, she's taking ideas I used (which yes, most were not my original ideas from some from you girls, TK, blogs, etc) and adding to them as if almost to out-do me.

I think I'm just overly sensative on the subject b/c our wedding was so recent.

ead1975 · April 2011

Eh, I can see why it would be annoying, but as others have said, she may not even realize how much she's "liberating" from you. I'm sure it's more annoying than it normally would be since a)you're part of the wedding, and b)you're less than a year out from your own wedding. But aside from a quick, "can you believe this?" vent to your husband (or here), I'd just let it go.

And I'm pretty sure a few people on the October board did the same gift for their husbands, or talked about it anyway. Which I'm not knocking you for, btw, I'm just pointing out that there are very few original ideas in wedding planning.

hz80408 · April 2011

ead1975:

And I'm pretty sure a few people on the October board did the same gift for their husbands, or talked about it anyway. Which I'm not knocking you for, btw, I'm just pointing out that there are very few original ideas in wedding planning.

True, Jackie originated the idea, at least that was who I got it from...and I think she may have been the one to help with the Cubs saying too.

But I guess I didn't mind taking ideas from 10-10ers or TK since really we're all "strangers" and don't have the same guests at each others weddings. Although, yes, technically I did copy a bunch of ideas from other people too.

I'm trying my best to let it slide and I definitely don't plan on saying anything to her. Like Megan said, it'll be over soon...so I'm just bitting my lip in the meantime and trying not to think about it. Really, there are most important things in life.

Also Megan, you're right, she is a good/true friend and I do think it's possible she may point out that I rec'd the shoes or something

Boynton1286 · April 2011

I was thinking the same thing, I did that for Lance also, so technically we are all "copy cats." I did different gifts than you (except for the socks), but still the same concept. I think that I would be annoyed also, but I think you will have to just try to put on a "happy face" and let her bask in her wedding glory.

My best friend is getting married 6 months from today and she is sooooo laid back, I feel like I am hounding her to get her sh!t together and get moving. She has a lot of it done but she still needs to decide on times and little things that she needs for the invites. Her FI is in the National Guard and is out of town for school right now so the planning is on hold until he gets home. I am just glad we finally decided on a dress and they will be ordered this weekend.

Dyork · April 2011

Bleh, I'd be annoyed too. Of course I was one of those brides who was SO paranoid about talking too much about my wedding that I never brought it up unless someone asked how it was going. It drives me CRAZY when girls get on that wedding kick.

But it should be flattering. She saw your e-pics and loved them so much that she want to do that too. Hopefully she doesn't take anymore of your ideas.

ead1975 · April 2011

hz80408:
But I guess I didn't mind taking ideas from 10-10ers or TK since really we're all "strangers" and don't have the same guests at each others weddings. Although, yes, technically I did copy a bunch of ideas from other people too.

I hear ya. But keep in mind that you're pretty much the only person who's going to know that she's copying, even if half your guest list is the same. Like, I'm sure your shoes were awesome, but I would be willing to bet no one will even notice that she's wearing the same ones. And I can't imagine that more than a handful of people would even know what the bride/groom get each other.

So vent away here, but let it slide with her. Like you said, it'll be over soon enough, and hopefully she'll let the bridezilla side go once she walks down the aisle.

MC22 · April 2011

ead1975:

I hear ya. But keep in mind that you're pretty much the only person who's going to know that she's copying, even if half your guest list is the same. Like, I'm sure your shoes were awesome, but I would be willing to bet no one will even notice that she's wearing the same ones. And I can't imagine that more than a handful of people would even know what the bride/groom get each other.

Excellent point! We all get so mired down in our details that we forget no one notices all of them!