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Ladies...I am in a funk
Hi ladies. For the last few weeks I have been in this depressed funk about my life. And I mean MY life. Not my relationship with my husband, not my child, just about me. There are so many things that are bothering me...the fact that we still don't have a house yet and I am going to be 30 in a few days still living with my MIL. I feel like such a loser.
Then there is the fact that I finally graduated with my teaching degree just in time for their to be no jobs. The district I sub for just let go 88 K-6 teachers. I didnt go to school to be a substitute teacher, and now I am stuck between subbing (which I like), and a job that pays me crap money. (I'm talking close to 2 dollars above min wage- woo hoo.) I am so unhappy at this job that I have to drag myself to go. I don't know, just a lot of things I have been thinking about have been bothering me and I feel like I am stuck. I always tell my husband, "if I just had a better job, we could probably afford that house we liked so much". He is frustrated about living at home still too, but he has a positive outlook on it and continues to be positive about me finding a job, and us getting a house when the time is right and everything.
I don't know...I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for "listening" and reading all of this.
Re: Ladies...I am in a funk
Sorry you're feeling so down, Erin. I have some friends who are teachers and when we graduated back in 2006 they couldn't find jobs right away either, and had to sub. And that was because before the economy took a nose-dive. They ended up getting hired on by the schools they subbed for, so hopefully that will happen for you!
I think you need a day to yourself to do something fun and/or fulfilling for you!
I agree.
I am sorry you are feeling this way. I do know what you mean. DH and I have been looking for a house for almost 2 1/2 yrs with nothing.
Is it possible to volunteer at some place while you are not teaching? I know it may not bring in the $$, but it may help you out of a funk? Maybe taking up a hobby or a class?
I think we all have been in a funk at one point in our lives. Just know you are not alone.
((hugs))
I agree with Holly that you need a day to do something fun and relaxing. I hope that jobs will open up soon. {{{hugs}}}
I totally know what you mean and feel your pain, Erin! I've been in a similar "funk" for the last few weeks. I still don't have a job and the prospects out there are those same minimum wage (or just over) jobs.
What else can you focus some of your attention on? Of course it's important to find a job to support your family, but what else makes you happy?
Well I am trying to be positive with everything and I have been trying to plan and think of how fun vacation will be this July. So each day I feel differently, but I am just trying to focus on the fact that at least I have a job(s) and that one day everything will work out. thanks girls for listening and I think I will try to find a "me" day.
Erin, I feel for you. It's difficult to get out of those feelings sometimes. In terms of the job situation, I would keep subbing if you can. I teach HS and thankfully was able to get a part-time job last year. I was incredibly lucky when two teachers in my department moved last summer, allowing me to become full-time this year. I really do think everything will work out, and the best thing you can do is to get face time with schools by subbing. In a couple years things will go back to "normal" for education and there will be jobs again. From what I hear from veteran teachers the education system goes through this slump every 10 years or so, but it manages to make a comeback. Budgets are tight in every industry, but give it time and you will be teaching in your own classroom soon! Just keep deferring your student loans (if you have them), and keep your chin up! It's only temporary!
P.S. -- I have to tell myself "this is only temporary" about 2-3 times a month. Being my first year teaching full-time and my first time teaching an AP course I am so overwhelmed. Several times throughout this school year I have considered quitting, and have asked myself why I went into such massive debt to become a teacher anyways. By substituting you will have awesome classroom management skills when you do land a teaching job and I will be jealous of that
I'm so focused on the words coming out of my mouth as I'm teaching brand new content with AP Government, that I feel like everything else I do just sucks this year. It is such a difficult job, but it has its rewarding times too 
You'll find a job one day! Don't give up!!
Mr. and Mrs. est. September 6, 2008 Expecting Baby #1 October 1, 2013