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Alishanyc
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(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart(I carry it in my heart)
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Rude Questions...
If one more person asks me:
1. How much weight I gained so far in my pregnancy?
2. Why isn't my belly huge, isn't it supposed to be?
3. Am I sure that I'm as far along as I think I am (due to Question #2)
4. (my favorite) What color do I think the baby will come out? (Because I'm Puerto Rican and my husband is Irish).
So
help me, I'm getting pretty annoyed... And I'm shocked they even
go so far to ask me these things, considering I'm pretty raw and will go
from zero to Cut-You in 2 seconds. Maybe they think pregnancy made me
lose my edge? LOLOL. Im just tired of it.
Do people always have to be so rude and nosy?
...here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart(I carry it in my heart)
Re: Rude Questions...
Yeah, people feel very comfortable asking you all kinds of questions. I've had some real doozies.
And I totally understand your anger/frustration at getting asked if you're pregnant. That would tick me off. I would NEVER ask a person that question, I always wait for them to offer it up. Even better you were asked when you had a drink in your hand.
Best part, our best friend owns a restaurant in Williamsburg. I was standing at the bar chatting with my husband and some friends. My husband doesnt drink, had a sprite and I had this really amazing drink with different juices that the bartender made for me. Some lady gives me the stink eye, and says "I hope there's no liquor in that".
Um, the nerve. I let her have it, boy was I mad.
We've had that problem a lot at work...I don't understand why people think it's okay to get into your uterus. If you suspect someone is pregnant, keep it to yourself until they tell you. There have been people at work who are 6 months pregnant, and because they didn't say anything, i didn't say anything. If people aren't ready to tell you, DON"T ASK!!!! maybe I put on a couple of pounds, maybe it's the shirt I"m wearing. you have NO idea what's going on in my world. I get that people are trying to be "supportive," but that isn't how it comes across.
I think, from my friends who are pregnant, that again, people think it's okay to get really personal with them. even down to touching their stomach's, often without asking. I just don't understand that at all. It is SO culturally inappropriate.
Sorry, this entire topic really hits a tender spot for me. Rant over.
For the record, any snippy, sharp, or in other ways snide remarks are totally appropriate. yelling at people is also acceptable. they deserve it!
Alisha,
Funny you're getting the too small comments and I'm getting the too big comments. I've always carried any extra weight in my stomach AND I really don't have patience for inappropriateness in adults. I teach children who seem to get it. At 6 years old they never asked, until 2 of my smart, sweet girls came up to me to tell me they thought I might be pregnant. Not in a nosy, but concerned way. It was so cute. I was already like 5 months.
I've gotten the "Whoo, you're getting so big," which I replied with an "um, thanks." And she just walked away. Otherwise, everyone's been complimentary and supportive. But, I don't want to hear the size comments when we go back after a week and a half off.
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Totally agree with Karllen here. People for some reason think that it's ok to ask much more personal questions of a pregnant woman. Luckily when I was pregnant, nobody asked really rude questions or anything, but my DH's grandma was obsessed with kissing my belly. And the thing is she's pretty short, so she didn't have to bend down too far and so I had about 1 second to realize wth she was doing to try to turn away. Man, that used to piss me off!
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maybe it's just me, but...people aren't just azzholes to pregnant women. i've gotten comments about 1) my tall height--5'10"--and playing basketball. cliche. 2) my big boobs--38DD--and how they MUST be what caused me to crack a vertebrae, nevermind the degenerative spinal disease phooey that i "supposedly" have. 3) my growing up in rural pennsylvania, and how i probably have a "hillbilly" or "coal-cracker" family and eat a lot of wonderbread and pot pies.
people are azzholes. period.
but regardless of what they are being azzholes about, i say let 'em have it!
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I like to be annoying and rude back when asked rude questions. I was asked some doozies when I was pregnant the first time and I was always taken aback and tried to come up with something that would make the other person scurry off, either shaking their head in disgust or humiliation. My answers would probably go something like this:
1. How much weight I gained so far in my pregnancy?
At least 100 pounds. I was anorexic before and this pregnancy is driving me insane. How much have you gained sine you have been pregnant? Oh, you aren't pregnant? My bad.
2. Why isn't my belly huge, isn't it supposed to be?
I don't know why my belly isn't huge, why is yours? You aren't pregnant, is yours supposed to be that big?
3. Am I sure that I'm as far along as I think I am (due to Question #2)
Actually, I am only a couple of months but I want to start getting the baby gifts now, I love presents. I am returning them all and using the cash to buy myself jewelry.
4. (my favorite) What color do I think the baby will come out? (Because I'm Puerto Rican and my husband is Irish).
Purple. Just a hunch.
Like musiscout, I got the opposite ALL the time...
"Whoa, are you sure there's only one in there? I think you must be having twins!"
"Are you sure you are only X months along? You look like you are ready to pop any minute!"
and my personal favorite -
"There's no way you are having a girl. You are carrying ALL in front, it's definitely a boy. Your stomach is too big for it to be a girl"
You know, because the amnio I had which genetically PROVED my baby is a girl is no match to you and your old wive's tales.....