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Marriage advice I wish I would have been given...
Marriage advice I wish I would have been given (for fun)....
I wish I would have been told...
When it is time for cleaning and we are suppose to BOTH clean - my hubby disappears. He has to get a haircut or run to the office real quick... and of course he will be gone for hours! ugh!!
Then he will spend 2 minutes vacuuming one room and feel like he contributed a lot, meanwhile I did all the cleaning, dusting, polishing and scrubbing!
After complaining to my mom, she was like 'Welcome to Marriage!' Apparently my father does this too....
I wish someone would have warned me....
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Re: Marriage advice I wish I would have been given...
I wish I would have been told just how difficult it would be to coordinate the conflicting dreams of two people.
Him: I want to be a police officer (translation for me: he wants to live in North America)
Me: I want to live in Finland (translation for him: he can't be a police officer).
sigh.
Me: I want to do _____ (knowing that he really doesn't want to do that).
Him: Ok babe, whatever you want.
Seriously? Did I marry the only man on this earth without an opinion on ANYTHING?!?! Just give me some feedback already!
Lance is so laid back I have to make all the decisions, if I counted on him to make them we would never leave the house. His answer is always, "I don't care." UGH!!
Are you married to my husband?
He is a chef, yet I always have to decide what's for dinner. If I try not to and let him decide, and keep asking him, he's "I don't care" or "I don't know". Then we don't end up eating until 3 hours later, when I am starving. I am always, "you are a freaking chef, how can you have no ideas?!?!?"
When he says, "I don't know, what do you want?" I have even come back with "What I want is YOU to make a decision!" but no luck.
It annoys me. I just want the man to take charge sometimes, you know?
Brian is like this too...once in a while he will put up a little fight but then he always just goes along with it. But I like getting my way lol so I am ok with him being laid back. Last night, we had out first fight ever in the 4 yrs together and it was about something ridiculous that I overexagerated...He was more hurt by it then I was
hmm looks like the nest ate my post.
It was rather long and detailed too. lame.
Basically -
My husband does the same thing. *insert long example I'm too lazy to rewrite now*
Jason is the exact opposite of passive/agreeable. I told him the other day, "Remember, Happy wife= Happy Life" and his response was, "That's a stupid saying" and went back to what he was doing lol. If he doesn't want to do something or doesn't like something I like, he will certainly voice his opinion about it. Granted, somethings I know he lets things slide and does them because he knows I want to (ie, Easter egg hunt with my family) but in general, he has strong opinons and says whats on his mind.
Although this causes little disagreements from time to time, I prefer it over a passive guy. I dated someone for 3 years before I met Jason, and he would do anything I would tell him to do, he would never disagree with me or have an opinion, and would never argue with me. I'd literally try to pick fights with him sometimes just to see if he actually had any passion/fire in him, but nope, nothing, which is exactly why I ended the relationship. I wanted an equal, not someone I dominated but that's just my personal preference.
Oh my god, yes! If you added up all of the hours I spent watching sports in the 31 years before I met my husband, it would equal less than 1/18th the amount of time I have spent watching them in the 4 1/2 years since.
I still hate football, though. It's so boring. I don't really understand (or like) hockey, but at least it goes quickly, and I can root for a fight.
(In fairness, he's gotten a lot better about giving me a break. But still, it's a rough few weeks right now. Celtics playoff games + Bruins playoffs + baseball season = me drinking heavily)
So see, I'm lucky (or maybe my husband is lucky) that I like sports quite a bit. So Sunday and Monday night football is no big deal to me. I also love baseball. Basketball is entertaining to a point with me, so I tolerate it. Neither of us like soccer or hockey.
But here's the thing...he will often put on a game that has two teams that don't matter at all to us, just to have sports on TV. I mean, if it's the Red Sox or Astros playing, sure, we will watch it since we're fans. But do we really have to watch an Oakland vs. Angels game? Neither team are in our divisions, so it doesn't matter.
I am just not into sports as much as he is, so it's still a challenge. And he has already told me that Carter is not allowed to be a Sox fan since Chris is a die hard Astros fan. I conceded.
Megan & Chris
Glad to know I am not alone on this one! The last few weeks have been insane between basketball (luckily the Wizards are out lol), plus constant Orioles games plus the Capitals playoffs...it's been ridiculous. When we first started dating, I don't remember him watching any sports and now it has taken over our lives. He makes me watch American Idol in the bedroom on the small TV while he watches games on the big TV because "American Idol is about what you hear, not what you see" lol a$$hole.
Haha! Chris would come up with something similar to that! Although the other night, Dancing with the Stars was on (my total guilty pleasure) and he actually let me have the living room TV and he went into the study to watch something. I was shocked, especially since I don't watch DWTS on a regular basis.
Erica - sounds like a rough time for you - ha! Fortunately, Houston teams rarely make it to the playoffs, so we generally don't have so much to follow at one time
Megan & Chris
Heh, he's usually pretty good about offering to switch the channel if there's something I want to watch, and if there's something we watch together (like the Thursday night shows), he'll just flip over to the game during the commercials or when the shows are over. And he had no interest in baseball when the Sox were in the toilet, thankfully, so I got a bit of a break. But then there are the sports talk shows that he watches at 6 and/or 630 on the local sports channels to factor in. And the random baseball games we flip to because a fantasy player of his (or his opponent-of-the-week) will be pitching/playing.
Which is why I felt zero guilt when I dragged him to see Jane Eyre on Saturday, heh. And really, sports are his only vice - it could be so much worse!