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f/u to MIL Letting Go
Thank you everyone. Even though I did DD, I want you to know that I really appreciate your honest advice. You all said exactly what I was thinking. Only much more coherantly and without crying. We need to sit and have a long talk.
Re: f/u to MIL Letting Go
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You're absolutely right. Can you all be in my head when the time comes?
Good luck and stay strong.
Remember that you're not stuck with him, he's not "the best you can do," and there is absolutely no shame in ending an engagement (either to break it off entirely or just take some time to work on things). You deserve better than this.
He needs to know that right now is the point of no return - he's either got to put a stop to this NOW, or you need to walk. Because if he doesn't do it now then it's never going to happen.
Be prepared for him to tell you everything you want to hear and remember that everything he's shown you up to this point speaks volumes more than those words.
If you're not ready to 100% walk away, and IMO you should, at least put the wedding on hold until he shows you through actions, not just words, that he will change.
Good luck!
I didn't reply before you dd'ed, but I agree with the others. The fact that you WERE NOT INVITED to Easter, and yet your FI still went speaks volumes.
As does the fact that your FI put a LAST MINUTE "delivery" to his aunt in front of plans with you.
If all else fails, you need to provide consequences for your fi's actions. Dessert at your parent's home is at 4? If FI doesn't show up at 4, start eating. At 5:30, leave. When your fi shows up at 7 pm, you shouldn't be around, and the party should be over.
I'm also curious as to whether you told your parents that you guys were splitting the holiday because you were not welcome at your future in-laws' house. If so, what was your parents' reaction?