activity after baby Q

chayer227 · April 2011

We've been invited to an 80th b-day party for extended (but fairly close) family May 21st. This will make the munchkin approximately 3 weeks old. DH thinks it's too much to take the baby up to Westbrook (1 hour drive) to make an appearance. The party is at the church we got married in, about 2 minutes from my parents' house, so I don't think it's that big of a deal - if it's too much "excitement" we can just take the baby there.

Is 3 weeks too early to get out with the baby for something like this? We need to RSVP soon.

cdg0819 · April 2011

I bet you'll get answers on both ends of the spectrum. Since its close to your parents that should give you an easy exit if needed. But, I would personally worry about germs at the party so early on.

MainelyFoolish · April 2011

The baby will probably sleep through most of it anyway. I would go, it's not that far.

MA&CB · April 2011

I would probably RSVP that you could go, but don't feel guilty if you change your mind at the last minute. I think the baby would probably be fine, I'd put him the moby wrap so you don't have to pass him around to everyone and he'd sleep through the whole thing. But you never know, you might not feel up to it when the time comes or feel like it's too much - it's hard to say how you're going to feel emotionally or physically 3 weeks postpartum.

maeghan21 · April 2011

I'd RSVP yes and see how you feel then. It's day by day at that point. If you do bow out no one is going to fault you for it. I know I wasn't up for it and didn't want DD around a ton of people all at once. She did sleep during most outings like Kimberly said.

jl&jl · April 2011

At 1 1/2 week old, we went to the Portland headlight for a daytrip. Maybe 40 minutes for us to get there. At 2 weeks, we had a baby shower with 30 people. Wasn't looking forward to it, but it turned out being okay. At 2 1/2 weeks, we drove 6 1/2 hours to my hometown and stayed there for 2 weeks. While we were there, we were out and about almost everyday visiting family, going for walks, etc. Adrian has yet to be sick. So, that was us trying to take advantage of DH having a month off from work. We did what we felt was okay, and when we felt overwhelmed, we rested. My advice is to tell that you hope to go to the party, but if you feel like it's too much, trust your gut. If you're like us, you may enjoy being out and about. If you'd rather stay home, don't feel guilty. You'll be the mama and you will always know what's best.

BeyondTheSea16 · April 2011

I agree with everyone else, say yes, and see how you really feel the day of. "Baby card" is a great excuse that no one can argue with :0) Also, Meg's idea is a great one!! Throw him in the Moby or Bjorn or some sort of carrier so that no one asks to hold him. That way he's with you and safe, and will likely sleep. If you and hubby are just holding him, everyone will ask to hold him, which you may be ok with, but at big functions in the first month, even we were a little hesitant at first.

jd72878 · April 2011

By day three of being home I was looking for any excuse to get out of the house! Although, your stamina might be different depending on how you give birth. Germs are probably more of an issue that the actual trip, and I also like the suggestions from PP. Who knows, you, your DH, and your Dr. might be a-okay with it! We definitely were out and about pretty early on and she was only a month old at our 50+ Christmas gathering. Abby was passed around like a hot potato and I didn't mind. It gave me a little break :-)

WildcatPrincess · April 2011

We went out early and often, I got stir crazy very early on. A lot of people wait until after the first round of shots, but they have very little immunity from those until 6 weeks after they get those even, which is far too long to go without getting out. In my opinion!

meganmarieCA · April 2011

MA&CB:
I would probably RSVP that you could go, but don't feel guilty if you change your mind at the last minute. I think the baby would probably be fine, I'd put him the moby wrap so you don't have to pass him around to everyone and he'd sleep through the whole thing. But you never know, you might not feel up to it when the time comes or feel like it's too much - it's hard to say how you're going to feel emotionally or physically 3 weeks postpartum.

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