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Ugh. DH's cousin's wedding this summer
So we are invited to DH's cousin's wedding this summer, a few hours away from here. We're planning to go, since DH's parents and brother will be going. I have to say, maybe I'm just getting really snobby in my old age (or maybe it's because I'm sick and cranky today), but I'm already incredibly annoyed by this whole thing.
1. The invite shows up with several little printouts telling us where they are registered, which annoys me from the get-go. Then, I go and check the registries, and they barely registered for anything and more than half the stuff has already been purchased, several months before the wedding. If you're going to go to the trouble of registering and breach etiquette by sending the notices with the invitation, at least have enough sh*t on the registry for people to actually buy you.
2. There is going to be like a 4 hour break between the end of the ceremony and the reception time. I HATE that. WTF are we supposed to do during that time? We're all already dressed up, not anywhere near home, and I guess will have to find someplace to hang out, or go sit in our hotel rooms and watch tv, for a few hours while attempting to not get our hair and makeup and clothes messed up before the reception.
3. The reply card asks us to tell them which entree we each want for dinner, but there is no vegetarian option listed. DH sent his cousin and her mother an email two weeks ago to ask if there is a vegetarian option available and if we should write it in on the reply card, or if I need to plan on feeding myself before the reception (most catering places plan for a small number of vegetarians, but I'd rather know for sure ahead of time and I'm sure they want to know how many they need and who gets them). No response to the emails. Since the reply card is due next week, I guess I'll just write in my own option under the other two??
4. There is no stamp on the reply envelope, so I have to supply my own. I always thought it was standard practice to include a stamp on the reply envelope before you send the invites out. Am I wrong?
5. Oh, and did I mention that DH's family will be staying with us here at our house for several days before AND after the wedding wekend because they decided to turn it into an East Coast vacation?????
Vent over for now. Thanks for listening.
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Re: Ugh. DH's cousin's wedding this summer
these two have happened a few times to me, and I am always surprised. I just don't get it. I'm a stickler for wedding etiquette!
ugh is right!
Those registry things are for the bridal SHOWER not wedding. Thankfully i have never gotten an invite with that in it!
They should def. have a veggie option. My aunt is vegitarian and i emailed her prior to invites to let her know that there would be something available, which she appreciated. She was my only "known" vegetarian. But, at the bottom of the response card i added something that there were options for people with dietary restrictions (i can't remember exactly) and someone else circled it.
I was in a wedding with that break. RIDICULOUS. Even though we were taking pictures, we still had a good hour before with nothing to do but sit in front of the venue. I would have hated to be the guests! my brother once went to one where there was a break and the ceremony was on staten island, the reception, nyc so they ended up going to a bar and watching basketball (it was during march madness).
No stamp? come on. I realize weddings are expensive but you couldn't have bought stamps?????? That is very tacky IMO.
these two things would def irritate me! Very tacky!
I had a break in between my wedding but it wasn't 4 hours and most of our guests were local and came to the church undressed and went home or were out of town came ot the church and then traveled to our reception (which was a 45 mins ride) checked into their hotel rooms and then headed to the reception, where there was a bar available to guests.
Umm are we going to the same wedding? lol
We have one of those in May...not looking forward to it at.all.
ugh...people suck.
I HATE when people have a big gap between ceremony and reception. IMO the gap should be no longer than 2 hours. 4 hours is redic.
The things that irk you irk me as well. Lately I've told Hubby that I think I'm too snobby when it comes to weddings too. I don't know. I made the effort to make my wedding not only fun, but has an etiquette level too. I even bought one of those books! Nothing fancy, it was more tongue and cheek, but I did my best. When we were planning I asked right away about vegetarian options and options for kiddies. (our nephews were younger then). But that's me.
We have all sorts of etiquette books at my job on display. A co-worker and I were discussing how many people just have no plain simple manners these days. Old and young alike.
Oh, he!!, I didn't even think of this. I bet they'll have a cash bar.
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I'm with Margie...you cannot go if it is a cash bar.
I second (third?) this!