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Tamtrum help.. and biting
So DD always wants to sleep on the couch and will cry forever till I let her, which means I end up sleeping in a recliner chair and with my bad hip its not that smart. I had her broke of this sleepin on the couch crap but when she goes to her dads he lets her sleep on the couch. Which, in turn, starts the whole tantrum issue here often.
The last 2 nights I kept her in the room until she gave up and went to bed but she bit me sunday night hard on the finger right before giving up. And last night she acted like she was going to give me a hug and bit the hell out of my tit/nipple. How do I stop this behavior?
I will be talking to her dad (again) about enforcing the rules at his house the same as they are here since she is here 98% of the time
Re: Tamtrum help.. and biting
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Oh, gawd, Tricia, I don't know. Can you just tell her that she can sleep on the couch at Daddy's but not at Mommy's? Do you try staying with her in her room until she falls asleep? It's not ideal, but it might be a good first step. I wish I had better advice for you, but we suck in the sleep department.
Biting, like hitting or kicking, is an automatic timeout, though. Depending on context, I give her the chance to apologize, but if she doesn't, I physically pick her up and put her in her bed for a timeout until she's ready to apologize and give a hug to whoever. It can be a long process, but after the first couple of offenses, it got much better. GL!
My silly Lily is almost 4.
BP- she is 2 1/2 and all this tantrum stuff is pretty new.
K8e- She sleeps in my room in my bed, so I am there with her all the time. She likes to be on the couch so she dont miss anything... she is obsessive about things being moved while shes not around. As for time outs lately we seam to be doing it all day, either she wont apologize or hug or she will say sorry, hug you and 10 seconds later do whatever it was that got her in time out again.
Sad to say but every time we have days like this I want to drive over to his house, throat punch him and drive back without saying a word. Yes, I still blame him a lot.
Don't ask me, I am still trying to figure out how to handle tantrums. Macy has hit me a few times and it always stuns me (why, I don't know) and all I can think to do is put her in her crib for time out. Ha. But I have a feeling that at 16 months she has no idea what a time out is. Luckily this has only happened a handful of times.
I think I would try to talk to your STBXH in a clam manner and tell him your concerns. While I am sure you have a TON of things you want to say to him in regards to the care of your daughter he will tune you out if you take the wrong approach. So while it sucks having to be nice, I think this might be your only hope to get your STBXH on the same page as you.
GL to you! My BFF is a single mom and has similar issues with co-parenting with her ex. It's a tough situation all the way around. I hope the two of you will be able to find balance to make everyones life less stressful!!
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