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Gossip
At my job, there has apparently been some negative gossip between a small group of people lately. I guess it got out of control enough where their supervisor had to pull their team together and talk to everyone in general, without addressing what the gossip actually was. Then this morning, our manager had us watch a video clip from a speech given by Dave Ramsey about how negative gossip can be to the workplace.
I have no idea what the gossip was about, but of course now I'm sooooooo curious!! And it's not like I can ask anyone, as that just contributes to it, lol. I'm so glad I wasn't part of it, or else I would be feeling really bad right now.
I can't help it though, I love gossip. But I try really hard not to do it. Especially now, as I get older. When I get together with a friend, I try so hard not to say anything gossipy about any of our mutual friends. But then sometimes (like this past Sat night over drinks with a friend, oops) it just comes out of me and then I feel guilty for days. Mostly because I'm terrified that whomever I gossip to will tell the person whom I was gossiping about. I guess I'm afraid of being caught gossiping! Lol. And I don't like to come across as a gossipy, untrustworthy person. But geez, it's so much fun sometimes.
And btw... my H is the biggest gossip I've ever known. He talks to his friends on the phone every single day and all they seem to do is talk about each other. I'm always telling him to be careful, as it can backfire so badly on you. About 6 years ago, I had this group of friends and I wasn't careful about what I said in front of them, one-on-one. A "friend" from the group was waiting for me to make this mistake and she told another friend every single thing I'd said about her. Stuff that was said in confidence. It was honestly one of the worst experiences I'd ever gone through, I felt terrible and really betrayed.
Anyway ladies, I guess I felt like writing an essay on gossip today for you all. Sorry to be such a weirdo but thanks for indulging me 
Anyone else have any gossip stories?
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Oooh, it had to have been good for mgmt to get involved, it would be killing me not to know! I try not to be a gossip but sometimes things are just too good not to talk about
Agreed with pp. That must've been some juicy gossip if it resulted in an office meeting. I also would be dying to know what was being said.
I have one rule about gossip - I will never "gossip" about anything I wouldn't say to the person's face. Of course, if you know me well enough, you know I'll say just about anything (good or bad) to anyone's face, so my filter is a little thin in that regard.
There is a lot of gossip at my job and I just try to stay out of it. We've had management get involved too. It's still bad. I'll gossip to an extent, sometimes more than other times, depending on the mood I'm in. I don't say really nasty things about people and never make things up out of nowhere.
When I was in high school, I was sitting in the cafeteria with a few of my freinds and they were commenting on every single person that walked by. I got so tired of it, I finally said, "Can we talk about something different, please? I don't care what so and so is wearing or what you heard about them." I don't remember the reactions I got, but I do remember saying that. Enough is enough, sheesh!
That's how I am too.
I am really, really good about not gossiping with anyone but my H of my mom. My H is boring and NEVER gossips and tells me to shut it when I start gossiping about people. On the flip side, everyone knows never, ever to tell my H any gossip. Because he has no filter and will repeat anything he hears. He doesn't do it on purpose (like to stir the pot) he just does it because he doesn't think before he speaks. Maybe that is why he never wants to hear gossip?
Growing up I had a friend (who was also one of my bridesmaids) who was the QUEEN of gossip. Actually her family was the royal family of gossip. I guess I learned from an early age to watch what I say around people. IDK, I think I have been on the shiit end of gossip too many times to run my mouth. I know how it feels to have negative things said about you in and it's no fun
Why I am still friends with this girl I have no idea. I guess it's because we have been friends for so long and I have just accepted her backstabbing ways?
But I will admit that every now and again if I get drunk something gossipy will slip out of my mouth in front of company. Then I spend most of the night feeling like shiit about it.
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Yes! This what happens to me. I've never said anything reeaallly bad, but pretty much any time I get tipsy, I will be much more open and gossipy. Drinking gets me in the mood to gossip
And then the next day, I'll go over in my mind everything I said and feel a little scared and guilty. So to prevent those bad feelings, before I start drinking, I always have to give myself a pep talk about watching my mouth!
I would be dying to know what it was! I agree with Nicole. If I can't say it to your face, I shouldn't be saying.
I got so mad with someone who was newish in the office when they looked me up and down and said I guess what they say about you is true. I asked (in front of this persons manager) what it was that they had heard and he refused to say it to me. He walked away from us. I told his manager that that was BS, you don't say that to someone unless you have the balls to elaborate. I make it perfectly clear to everyone I work with--I don't have to like you, but I do have to work with you. If I don't talk to you about my life, current events, etc. your feelings should NOT be hurt!
Aw, I know how that can be. I'm naturally a quieter person and people often perceive me as less friendly because I'm not loud and outgoing. It's always bothered me but at this point, I try to accept that my personality is what it is and I shouldn't have to change it! As long as I'm pleasant enough. I know it can get so annoying though, when people think of you that way.
My H doesn't like gossip so much either. But he is starting to like it more I think, which makes me happy
Two years ago or so if I called him in to the computer room to look at something juicy on someone's FB page (he doesn't have FB) he wouldn't even look, but now usually he will LoL. But he doesn't slip and tell people.
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LoL THIS!
I'm glad I'm not the only one who gives myself a pep talk about that!
LOVE LOVE LOVE gossip! For some reason, people at my job love to tell me things. So, I always know a lot...but dont really pass it along unless it comes up in direct convo and i think someone is on a need to know basis, which is not very often.
Anyways, we had a situation here recently where higher up people had to get invovled and it got pretty sticky. I was part of it, but in an indirect way (like the person in trouble had told me things and the higher ups asked me for specifics)..