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opinions please (1st Bday)
I always thought that huge first birthday parties were ridiculous...but when keira's came around I went along with it because that is what my husband's family does. we spent way too much $$$ for a party that my baby cried and was clinging to me b/c it was just too much! i regretted doing it and said never again...
so now it is time to celebrate baby #2's birthday and people are pressuring me to throw another b/c "u did it for the first one"...i was on the fence and thinking of planning one and i stopped and thought, "why the hell am i doing this, to make everyone else happy???"
i have alot going on right now, and party planning is honestly the futhest thing from my mind. we go to the shore every weekend and her bday is a friday, so i was planning to take the day off and head down early and celebrate with her down there (and take the money i would have spent and put in her savings account).
is this wrong? i would really like opinions on this...(also, keep in mind i just had a huge christening party for her in nov)
Re: opinions please (1st Bday)
Umm, no. Charlie's first birthday was a dinner and cake with my parents and MIL, as was his 2nd. Sam's first birthday was dinner and cake with our neighbors
I get that some people enjoy big parties and celebrations, but if you don't want to do it, why on earth would you put yourself through all that?
I like to keep kid parties for kids. If I wanted an adult party I would just have one
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I like your idea of going to the shore. You just spend all that time and energy in November, people shouldnt expect you to do it again already. I would tell my inlaws that if they want the big party, they can plan it, pay for it and we will show up.
We do a bigger party about every other year. But both DH and I have large close families. My parents have a huge beautiful deck and a nice big backyard so we crash that and just do a BBQ. Its pretty laid back, nothing fancy.
My brother is turning 30 this summer so no big party for Chase. This year we are taking him and his 3 best friends to our beach house and pitching a tent and letting them have a camp out in the yard. Cake and ice cream for who ever wants to make the drive over to the beach that weekend. Cuts the guest list down real quick.
this may be rude/evil of me- but, we are planning on doing all of these things where we now live, in dc. we have done everything else up in philly for the ease of our families but the christening and bday will be here. end of story. i can bet you that there will be fewer than 40 people at both of the events.
a trip to the beach is a perfect day for your little girl. if the ils want to do cake set it for that sunday night at your house (or during the week) and have something small. done and done. kids have no recollection of 1st birthdays, so really, why does it need to be over the top?
Quite frankly, I don't give a shiit what other people want. We just nixed a 100 person baptism party bc it's ridculous and unneccessary for us.
The il's prob aren't happy, but it's our kid.
Do what you and dh want.
For Oliver's b-day in a couple weeks, my parents are having a couple close relatives and my BFFs for a small party. It'll probably be 15 people max.
We're getting pizzas/salad and I'm getting a cake from somewhere in Philly (possibly Flying Monkey or Betty's Tasty Buttons).
I like your idea of going to the shore! Don't have a party just because everyone else is telling you to. You'll be happier doing something you want to do!