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How Do You Feel About This? (Could be TMI)
I know most of these girls are waiting to be intimate until married, so that is why these type questions are asked on the Christian Wedding board.
The thing that stunned me was some of the girls saying gyno exams aren't necessary because they aren't sexually active and there's no possible way they could catch HPV anyway.
Personally, I was horrified by these comments. One is 27 years old and never had a pap smear before because she said she's healthy and 'doesn't need one'. Another said she feels only her DH should see her lady bits and therefore does not go see a gyno.
I'm all about being proactive when it comes to my health, no matter what. I just thought it was general knowledge that women who are 18 and over/sexually active should at least get a base pap smear done. I also find it rich that these girls are so sure that their DHs will be faithful so they'll never have to get checked for HPV/cervical cancer. I trust my DH and I can't ever imagine him cheating, but I get a pap smear anyway -- for my health.
I responded to the thread and I said that while pap smears/cervical exams may be uncomfortable, that's part of being an adult female. And also -- what the frigg are these women going to do if/when they get pregnant???
Am I alone thinking these types of exams (including mammograms -- I've gotten a few of those too) are important?
Do the creep.
Re: How Do You Feel About This? (Could be TMI)
How in the world is a speculum going to stretch you out?! Wow...just wow.
Also how can they all be so naive. I can understand not lining up for an HIV test if you've never had sex, but not to get your yearly pap smear...give me a break.
My sister is one of these naive girls. She has this weird hang up about how going to the gyno isn't neccessary for her because she's a virgin and the only reason to go is to get birth control.
It drives me crazy---why would she not want to get a check up to make sure all her girly bits are a-ok, especially if you have health insurance and going is practically free? She has this perspective that people will think she is sleeping around if she goes. I wish I could shake some sense into her.
It's sad because for those of these women who do get sick, their first visit will be such a shock. They are so naive it hurts to read some of these comments. The stretching part is what's most shocking to me... and the one comment about the private parts being for their DH eyes only... are we in Middle Ages? Even then they had midwives who saw your parts if you could not get preggers..
I also agree with Louiblue - what is their guarantee that their husbands will be faithful? They over-estimate the power of what their priest says and under-estimate the power of nature.
In my college in Poland I knew this girl, same attitude about her body, doctors and sex before marriage. She got engaged at the age of 24 and her DH was 27 at that time, he promised her he hadn't had sex before (I never believed it). One day at a pharmacy, he threw condoms into their cart as a joke, she flipped out. I left Poland before they got married, so I don't know what happened to them, but him joking about sex before marriage was the main topic of all of their fights... and it only made me doubt he was a virgin even more.
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Wow.... it amazes me that some of those women outright do not even care about their physical health! You don't ONLY need to go to the ob/gyn after you start having sex. And the fact that they think the only way you can get cervical cancer is due to HPV?!?!?!? Holy moly!!! And what about the breast exams too - I have heard plenty of stories of women getting breast cancer in their 40, 30's or even 20's!! Just like when men go in for physicals and the dr.'s check their testes for lumps and such - so should women get their reproductive parts checked. Again - Wow!!
Do the creep.