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What are you thoughts on registering for a second wedding?

My Southern Mama thinks it's a big no no but I have been asked by several friends where we are registered.  We are only inviting about 50 people.  What are your thoughts?

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Re: What are you thoughts on registering for a second wedding?

  • (1) Is this both peoples second wedding?

    (2) I think people will bring a gift anyway. A good friend of mine got married to someone who had previously been married( me and the bridge have since become very close) I immediately bought them some Champagne Flutes from the Waterford Outlet ( only $20.00!!) 

     (3) Are you getting married again? No judgement or flames( because I have always liked you) just curious.

    "HOW many US citizens and ranchers have been decapitated in Arizona by roving bands of paperless aliens, and how will a requirement that I have papers on me make that not happen?"courtesy of SueSue
  • I don't think its totally tacky but I wouldn't register if I had a second wedding. I don't think there's a reason to.
  • Personally, as a guest, I would bring a gift to a second wedding. So I would want the bride and groom to register for stuff so I would have an idea.

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  • Generally I don't think it's tacky. I would give a bit of a side-eye if  your first marriage with within the last 3 years and you were registering for multiple $100+ items though. (I have no idea when your first wedding was)

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  • I have confusing mixed feelings about this. If it?s a second wedding for both I think it?s a bit tacky. If it?s either person?s first, I don't have issues. No matter what I would bring a gift and be annoyed if they didn't have a registry..... so darned if you do darned if you don?t?

    KRHagen November 2009
  • imageKRHagen:

    I have confusing mixed feelings about this. If it?s a second wedding for both I think it?s a bit tacky. If it?s either person?s first, I don't have issues. No matter what I would bring a gift and be annoyed if they didn't have a registry..... so darned if you do darned if you don?t?

    I feel this way too. Also if you are getting married CONGRATS!

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  • My opinion is that people are still going to bring gifts so I'd rather register than get a bunch of stuff you don't want/need.  I would limit the registry to fairly inexpensive items though and leave the big ticket things like china, crystal, etc off. 

    And as others said. . . if you are getting married again CONGRATULATIONS!!!  I am very happy for you!


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  • imageUGADawg8:

    My opinion is that people are still going to bring gifts so I'd rather register than get a bunch of stuff you don't want/need.  I would limit the registry to fairly inexpensive items though and leave the big ticket things like china, crystal, etc off. 

    And as others said. . . if you are getting married again CONGRATULATIONS!!!  I am very happy for you!

    i agree with all of this =)  and ditto on the congrats!

  • I think you should register, because people are going to want to bring gifts, but I would follow a few guidelines:

    1. Keep the registry modest, like towels, dishes, sheets, etc. I would not register for $300+ place settings.

    2. I'm sure you wouldn't do this, but no sending registry information with invites. I wouldn't tell anyone you're registered unless they ask.

    3. Again, I am not referring to you, but don't expect a shower with gifts. If your friends want to throw you a shower, I would graciously accept, because they love you and want to celebrate with you. But if you don't get one, I wouldn't be disappointed.

    I need a lot of household items since I only have the bare essentials right now, so I would register if I were in your shoes, but it would only be for those household things that I need.

    and CONGRATS!

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    I don't think its totally tacky but I wouldn't register if I had a second wedding. I don't think there's a reason to.

    If someone has gotten divorced, they may have very few household items and are really starting as much from scratch as a first time couple.

  • I agree with some others.  I think as long as you don't register for anything extravagant I think it's okay.

  • Ultimately, I think you do what YOU are comfortable with. That being said, it may also depend on who your guests are. I think most younger generations (like most of us nesties) would think it's fine and say go ahead. But older generations might find it pretty tacky. (But this is just what I've seen with friends and such.) If you are unsure, maybe you could have some stuff in mind to tell people if they ask what you want?
  • Nobody is going to know if you registered unless you tell them or they go looking for your registry. If they ask if you are registered or they are looking for your registry, they are likely not going to find it tacky that you registered. Obviously they were asking or looking for a reason! So, I don't see an issue in registering. I also agree with pp's about not registering for anything really expensive.
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  • Yes, I am getting married again!  My first wedding was 8 years ago and his was about 18.  Based on what you are saying I am going to go ahead and set up a registry.  Nothing big just some things to freshen up our home together.  That is the way I was leaning but wanted your opinions.  Thanks so much!!!  I'll be back soon and HAPPILY married!!!!
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  • imageHappyIAm:
    Yes, I am getting married again!  My first wedding was 8 years ago and his was about 18.  Based on what you are saying I am going to go ahead and set up a registry.  Nothing big just some things to freshen up our home together.  That is the way I was leaning but wanted your opinions.  Thanks so much!!!  I'll be back soon and HAPPILY married!!!!

    Congrats! We are all very happy for you.

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