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S/O wedding registries

Not to start a debate or detract from the OP, but how many of you truly care about offending the older generation? In our mother's generation, if you were married a second time, you donned a suit in a pastel color, went down to the courthouse and got hitched. That's it. You didn't "deserve" a wedding to your new husband because you've already had that luxury. I'm sure you can go over to TK and see many 2nd time brides hurt because their mother or other family members disapprove of their plans to marry again, and have a wedding with all the trimmings.

Me, I couldn't give a rat's behind if my decision to register (or have a wedding) "offended" someone, or if they thought it was tacky. I'm pretty smart and can weigh the pros and cons myself, so if I decided to register it's because I truly believe it's the best thing to do under the circumstances.

So would you let someone else's opinions weigh on you, enough to make you alter your plans?

 

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Re: S/O wedding registries

  • as far as registries go, i think the person can totally decide themselves...BUT they should also be prepared for some old people side-eyes, cuz that's what old people do.

     

  • The only thing that would bug me, is if my friends wanted me to pay 300+ dollars for another bridesmaid dress and shoes :p

    Otherwise, to each his own...  if people think its awful, I suppose they wont come OR buy a gift, and you probably didn't need them there anyways.

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  • I agree with H.

    In other news, I can't wait for E to get engaged. Big Smile

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  • imageohmygoodness99:

    The only thing that would bug me, is if my friends wanted me to pay 300+ dollars for another bridesmaid dress and shoes :p

    Otherwise, to each his own...  if people think its awful, I suppose they wont come OR buy a gift, and you probably didn't need them there anyways.

    Well, I think asking bridesmaids to do that if it's your first wedding or your fifth is just awful all around, LOL.

    And I agree with you GP. Big Smile

  • As for the older generation. Isn't it always up hill both ways with boxes for shoes, in the snow.

    If I'm inviting you to my wedding you know my situation and are probably not going to stir up to much trouble. If you do, you wouldn't be invited in the first place.

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  • I'm always of the opinion that it's YOUR day so you should do what YOU want regardless of others opinions.

    I don't think I have a huge opinion on this matter for others though for the most part.

    From a guest's perspective:  I do know someone who is getting married for the 2nd time early next year. Her first wedding was almost 5 years ago. Back then I decided to go all out and get her the dish set that she registered for even though it was a bit pricey for me at the time. Her husband got the house and she left all that stuff when she moved so she doesn't have them anymore. I think she has decided not to register but if she does and I see a dish set on there again, I know it will irritate me even if there is nothing wrong with that. However, I would NEVER let her know that. 

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    I'm always of the opinion that it's YOUR day so you should do what YOU want regardless of others opinions.

    I don't think I have a huge opinion on this matter for others though for the most part.

    From a guest's perspective:  I do know someone who is getting married for the 2nd time early next year. Her first wedding was almost 5 years ago. Back then I decided to go all out and get her the dish set that she registered for even though it was a bit pricey for me at the time. Her husband got the house and she left all that stuff when she moved so she doesn't have them anymore. I think she has decided not to register but if she does and I see a dish set on there again, I know it will irritate me even if there is nothing wrong with that. However, I would NEVER let her know that. 

    Wedding gifts (according to the law) should get split 50/50, regardless of who gave the gift, so yes, the bride is entitled to take half the stuff with her. However, if having to argue over who gets what prolongs a miserable and dangerous situation, then it's not worth fighting over. I can understand the bride wanting new dishes that she can share with her new H.

  • I had a child out of wedlock when I was 23 so I pretty much laid the foundation for 'suck it' right around then. I try not to be balls out offensive to our older family members/family friends in regards to stuff like that but have no problem saying "It's 2011, adapt, achieve and overcome, Grandma."
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    I had a child out of wedlock when I was 23 so I pretty much laid the foundation for 'suck it' right around then. I try not to be balls out offensive to our older family members/family friends in regards to stuff like that but have no problem saying "It's 2011, adapt, achieve and overcome, Grandma."

    I like you.

  • imagePuppiesAndRainbows:

    imageK&P414:
    I had a child out of wedlock when I was 23 so I pretty much laid the foundation for 'suck it' right around then. I try not to be balls out offensive to our older family members/family friends in regards to stuff like that but have no problem saying "It's 2011, adapt, achieve and overcome, Grandma."

    I like you.

    i can't decide if i love "achieve and overcome" or "balls out" better...but they are both outstanding.

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