WDYT of this BM dress

hz80408 · April 2011

I'm wearing this (the pic isn't me though) for a wedding. I'm nervous about the length because I have huge calves! Even on this girl I think her calves look weird. Am I being too judgey?

ETA: The girl in the pic is wearing the shoes we'll/I'll wear

Xan921 · April 2011

Although I don't think that length dress is very flattering in general, I don't think it makes her legs look bad. I think as long as you wear a heel and not a flat, you'll be fine.

MC22 · April 2011

I don't think this girl's calves look weird, but I don't care for the way the waist drops on the right side with that length...I only like that type of waist on longer dresses. But that's just me.

I'm sure you'll look great in it, though. And even if it isn't super flattering, it's ok because you didn't have a choice in what to wear for the day, so no one should judge you

hz80408 · April 2011

MC22:

I don't think this girl's calves look weird, but I don't care for the way the waist drops on the right side with that length...I only like that type of waist on longer dresses. But that's just me.

I'm sure you'll look great in it, though. And even if it isn't super flattering, it's ok because you didn't have a choice in what to wear for the day, so no one should judge you

Haha, I agree...and it was originally longer but the bride is having us get them altered to this length.

and I like your second comment as well :O)

MC22 · April 2011

hz80408:
Haha, I agree...and it was originally longer but the bride is having us get them altered to this length.
and I like your second comment as well :O)

Oh, I am not sure how I feel about that. I don't know that I would want to change a long dress into a tea length. But I also wanted a fall/winter wedding so my BM's could wear long dresses, so maybe I'm not a good judge.

And, yes, I never judge a BM

Last, I agree with Xan - it definitely needs to be worn with heels.

Dyork · April 2011

I agree that the waist almost drops down too far for a dress this short. And Although I think you should definitely wear heels.I don't know how I feel about a heel that has that strap going across the top of the ankle.

It's basically framing the calves because of the top strap of the heel and where the dress falls.

MC22 · April 2011

Dyork:

I agree that the waist almost drops down too far for a dress this short. And Although I think you should definitely wear heels.I don't know how I feel about a heel that has that strap going across the top of the ankle.

It's basically framing the calves because of the top strap of the heel and where the dress falls.

I have always heard that the strap around the ankle is not flattering with a dress, cropped pants, etc. for that reason. I guess not having it elongates your legs.

Patineuse1124 · April 2011

I agree with PP that the shoes are actually the bigger problem, that the strap around the ankles is the unflattering part.

hz80408 · April 2011

Patineuse1124:
I agree with PP that the shoes are actually the bigger problem, that the strap around the ankles is the unflattering part.

Eek, those are the shoes the bride picked out for us to wear (and made us buy ourselves BTW).

Megan- I agree, stapped shoes with the strap like that are hard to pull off. With my legs/calves, I never buy them b/c they don't flatter me. And the heel on these is pretty low. Which is good for comfort I guess, but yes, definitely doesn't help to "slim" the leg

Patineuse1124 · April 2011

Ugh I hate when the bride picks out the shoes. Picking a color is fine (as long as it's not impossible for BMs to find), but at least let people pick out shoes they are comfortable wearing.

becca474 · April 2011

Patineuse1124:
Ugh I hate when the bride picks out the shoes. Picking a color is fine (as long as it's not impossible for BMs to find), but at least let people pick out shoes they are comfortable wearing.

Agreed! You can even say "strappy" "close toed" etc.

Plus isn't it considered borderline bad etiquette to make you pay for shoes she picked out? Just like it would be to require hair and makeup but require BM to pay for it? I thought it was but maybe I'm wrong?

I've been so lucky - I'm in a november wedding and all she said was black evening shoes. I can't wear heels for medical reasons so I'm not sure what I'd ever do if someone required heels.

And Hannah I agree with PP - no one is going to be judging you and how you look. and I'm sure you'll look fine given the decisions that have been made

Xan921 · April 2011

hz80408:

Patineuse1124:
I agree with PP that the shoes are actually the bigger problem, that the strap around the ankles is the unflattering part.

Eek, those are the shoes the bride picked out for us to wear (and made us buy ourselves BTW).

Megan- I agree, stapped shoes with the strap like that are hard to pull off. With my legs/calves, I never buy them b/c they don't flatter me. And the heel on these is pretty low. Which is good for comfort I guess, but yes, definitely doesn't help to "slim" the leg

Ugh, I hate when brides do that (no offense to anyone who did), but I think if a bride wants all the accessories to be exactly the same on the bridesmaids, she should pay for it or better yet just let them be their own person and pick their own shoes. Matching dresses I get, but requiring matching shoes is just a bit much for me, especially when the bride isn't paying for them. BM's aren't Barbie dolls, you shouldn't play dress up with them lol.

:::steps off her soapbox:::

Mia2700 · April 2011

As PP mentioned, the waist is the awkward part for me, not the calves lol I'm certain the old advice that "your a BM, no one will notice you" will hold true. I would just do the best you can with what the Bride is requesting of you and let the rest roll off your shoulders.

hz80408 · April 2011

You're all right...I think it's preferred to either tell BMs a color shoe and let them get on their own (or wear somethign they have) or if bride requires a certain shoe/all the same, then she buys.

I was at least given a heads up that she wanted us to all have the same shoe and she said she'd taken suggestions, so I actually sent her a list, including those in the pic from Target b/c they were all around $20 and I didn't want to "waste" any more money than $20 on stupid, ugly shoes I'll never wear again.

becca474 · April 2011

hz80408:
You're all right...I think it's preferred to either tell BMs a color shoe and let them get on their own (or wear somethign they have) or if bride requires a certain shoe/all the same, then she buys.

I was at least given a heads up that she wanted us to all have the same shoe and she said she'd taken suggestions, so I actually sent her a list, including those in the pic from Target b/c they were all around $20 and I didn't want to "waste" any more money than $20 on stupid, ugly shoes I'll never wear again.

Oh good, I'm glad to hear that they were cheap

kjhharris · April 2011

Xan921:
Ugh, I hate when brides do that (no offense to anyone who did), but I think if a bride wants all the accessories to be exactly the same on the bridesmaids, she should pay for it or better yet just let them be their own person and pick their own shoes. Matching dresses I get, but requiring matching shoes is just a bit much for me, especially when the bride isn't paying for them. BM's aren't Barbie dolls, you shouldn't play dress up with them lol.
:::steps off her soapbox:::

Totally agree on this. It was something I just didn't give a rat's ass about - I told my two bridesmaids to pick a dress they didn't hate in a color that they didn't hate (could be the same dress, different dress, same color different color) and I bought them for them. They both selected the same dress in black with an ivory sash for $95. Awesome.

Then they started on shoes - "What do you want us to wear??" Umm, something you already have and that if you stepped on a pebble you wouldn't be in pain?

I'm in a wedding in July and was relatively lucky - dress is only $135 and she just said "choose any silver heels you want" - so happy she's low maintenance!

Boynton1286 · April 2011

I also don't like the waistline on the dress, I think it looks very strange as a short dress with the asymmetrical waistline. I also dislike short dresses which is why I wanted a fall wedding, but that is just me.

I let the girls pick whatever shoes they wanted and just asked that they bring cowboy boots for after the ceremony, I made sure no one had to buy them and borrowed from lots of people. I think that shoes should be the least of your worries

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