CP: Did you or Didn't you?

Tarah716 · April 2011

A S/O of the "two things" poll

Did you live with your husband before you tied the knot? Do you regret your choice at all?

[Poll]

ballerina06 · April 2011

We owned our house before we got married, DH was living in it, but we did not live together. DH was actually the one that was so adament about not living together, I could have gone either way.

bll530 · April 2011

I made DH proposed before he moved in. I bought a house and a week later he proposed

Liz the Bride · April 2011

He lived/worked in Rochester Hills and I was wrapping up college in Ypsilanti, and knew I wasn't going to move to my moms after graduation..or stay in Ypsi...so it just made sense a year into our relationship to move in together in the middle (royal oak) when our leases were up. But I told him going into it that I wasn't just going to live with him indefinitely; he proposed just over a year later.

bll530 · April 2011

bll530:
I made DH proposed before he moved in. I bought a house and a week later he proposed

Does that sound bad? I didn't MAKE him propose, I just said I wanted to be engaged before we moved in together.

MrsLokiAngel · April 2011

Yeah, honestly I think it's a little nutty to NOT live with someone before you marry them, but that's just me. I'm a little warped.

kzoomaggie · April 2011

DH and I lived together before we were married. We actually moved in with each other a few months before he proposed. He was living on the other side of the state, he ended up taking a job over here and it just made sense... We don't regret it.

Tarah716 · April 2011

I moved in with Jason about six months after we started dating - I had moved from GR back to this side of the state and was living with my parents. I wanted out, Jason owned a home - it just made sense. We did have "the talk" though that if I moved in we both had to be thinking marriage in the future.

corinne2010 · April 2011

I also wanted to be engaged before we lived together. DH proposed and then I moved in a few months later. I just wanted to be sure he was seriously considering taking things further. Some guys get comfortable living with their girlfriends and I did not want that to be me.

KBabySmiles · April 2011

Technically we didn't live together, but we did. We each had our own places, but were always together at one or the other. We we always together, just our stuff lived in separate places.

AshtonMain · April 2011

Lived with my ex husband and was married for 6 years. Lived with my current husband before we were married and so far, so good!

RKelly10 · April 2011

We absolutely did not live together before we were married. Both of our parents were completely against it and told us they would not pay for our wedding if we went against their wishes. Now looking back I am incredibly glad we did not live together before we were married. We even closed on our condo 3 weeks before the wedding and although I stayed a couple nights I was still living with my parents.

vitaminc28 · April 2011

Lived with my ex-husband before marriage for about 2 years. Also lived with my husband for about a year before we were married and I couldn't be happier.

firewife9278 · April 2011

MrsLokiAngel:
Yeah, honestly I think it's a little nutty to NOT live with someone before you marry them, but that's just me. I'm a little warped.

Then I'm warped too, because I agree. It just didn't make sense for us to maintain separate households when we were only ever using one at a time anyway.

I will say though, that I was 27 and DH was 35 when we moved in together and we'd both lived on our own for a long time beforehand.

catstoy73 · April 2011

We didn't live together before we got married and we don't regret it at all.

mary811 · April 2011

DH and I owned our home before we got married and he lived their full time. I stayed about 4-5 nights. I did the same thing in his house before that one. So we didn't live together, we had sleep overs

Hey, my dad is a pastor, so we had to make it work someway!

babya2010 · April 2011

DH bought our home shortly after we were engaged and I moved in a year and a half later when we got married. We spent every waking moment (outside of work) together, but all of my 'stuff' was still at my parents' house and I slept there.

Pookums · April 2011

We didn't but I always feel like we were in the minority.Our circumstances weren't the same as a lot of people though. I lived with my sister and really loved it, and despite being so excited to be moving in with DH it was sort of bittersweet. Embarrassed

I know I sound like a dork but at times I miss living with another girl, dh won't shoot the $hit with me over coffee at any hour like my sister would.

beewltched · April 2011

Dh moved into my condo about a week before we got married...so I dont really count it. I wanted to live together but he was living at his parents so it wasnt like we were paying out on two homes. Those first few months after we were married and really living together were tough!

jennic22 · April 2011

DH moved in to my condo about 5months after we started dating. DH was between places and crashing at his parents for a couple months and it was getting to the point where I needed a roommate to pay the bills. Since he was already staying over about 5 nights/week, I figured I'd rather have him move in than have a roommate plus him for most of the week.

notthebride123 · April 2011

I told DH from the time we were starting to get serious that I would not live with him until we knew we were getting married and spending the rest of our lives together. The main reason for this, though, was because at the time my daughter was around 3 years old and I would never have moved her in with him and then moved her out if we broke up. So, he made sure to propose a few months before my lease was up, and then we lived together for about 7 months before we were married. It has worked out so well.

mrsmitch06 · April 2011

DH bought a house 6 months after we started dating, but both of our parents are very strict and we knew I'd never fly for us to live together. His parents don't even know I stayed the night, whereas my parents are aware that I stayed the night there every couple weeks, since I lived at home. Neither of us had any desire to live together before we got married. For us it was the best choice. Coming home to our "new" home together on our wedding night was really fun. I also have to say the 1st year of marriage wtih getting used to living together was so much fun for us.

UrbanWife · April 2011

He wanted me to move in w/ him long before I did. I didn't want to move in until we were engaged. I didn't move in until we had been engaged for 6 months already and a year before the wedding. At that point my lease was up and it didn't make sense to renew. Otherwise I wouldn't have moved in until after the wedding!

Julz629 · April 2011

bll530:

bll530:
I made DH proposed before he moved in. I bought a house and a week later he proposed

Does that sound bad? I didn't MAKE him propose, I just said I wanted to be engaged before we moved in together.

I was the exact same way. Since day 1 when we were dating, I said I didn't want to live with someone unless I was at least engaged. I was living with my sister and she was getting married so we knew that I would be moving in with him -- so he did what he had to do. He proposed about 2 months before I moved in with him.

ETA: I am SO GLAD we lived together before getting married. It was a very rough transition, even though we had spent so much time and weekends together before getting married. I am a very type A personality and he is a very messy guy and there was a lot of bickering and fights. It took us about 3-4 months to get the hang of things and I am so happy we got that out of the way before getting married.

Julz629 · April 2011

Pookums:
We didn't but I always feel like we were in the minority.Our circumstances weren't the same as a lot of people though. I lived with my sister and really loved it, and despite being so excited to be moving in with DH it was sort of bittersweet. I know I sound like a dork but at times I miss living with another girl, dh won't shoot the $hit with me over coffee at any hour like my sister would.

I can totally relate. I lived with my sister for a couple years until she got married and I moved in with DH (FI at the time). I loved living with my sister and definitely miss it sometimes. We used to watch all the same TV programs so now we have to have lengthy discussions about shows like Bachelor, Teen Mom, etc. since we can't watch them together!

Pookums · April 2011

jholbel:

Pookums:
We didn't but I always feel like we were in the minority.Our circumstances weren't the same as a lot of people though. I lived with my sister and really loved it, and despite being so excited to be moving in with DH it was sort of bittersweet. I know I sound like a dork but at times I miss living with another girl, dh won't shoot the $hit with me over coffee at any hour like my sister would.

I can totally relate. I lived with my sister for a couple years until she got married and I moved in with DH (FI at the time). I loved living with my sister and definitely miss it sometimes. We used to watch all the same TV programs so now we have to have lengthy discussions about shows like Bachelor, Teen Mom, etc. since we can't watch them together!

Exactly, also my sister has subscriptions to a bunch of 'trashy' magazines like US and we would flip through them together all the time. Ahhh the good ole days.

LindsayTiz · April 2011

We lived together in an apartment for about a year then we bought a house. DH asked me if I'd rather have a house or a ring, and I chose the house. I knew we'd get married eventually so I wanted the house first!

My parents didn't like this idea too much, but about 6 months after we closed on our house, he proposed (actually 2 years ago today!)

I'm very glad we lived together first. DH had everything done for him by MIL when he lived at home, so when we moved in together, it was a little bit of a transition for both of us. Having the house bought and those issues out of the way was wonderful when it came time to deal with the stress of a wedding.

abbeylynne06 · April 2011

We did not live together before we were married, and I do not regret it one bit. It wasn't even an option in our minds.

jill91805 · April 2011

I moved into his house 4 months before the wedding, about 6 months after he proposed. It was good timing since literally 2 weeks later I found about my cancer stuff and really needed to be living with someone to help take care of me!

broncoalum97 · April 2011

abbeylynne06:
We did not live together before we were married, and I do not regret it one bit. It wasn't even an option in our minds.

This for me as well. It was remarkably easy transition, even though ppl thought it wouldn't since I was an only child and lived most of my adult life on my own.

PaulandShawna · April 2011

DH moved in to my condo 3 months after we started dating! LOL...I'm definitely in the minority in that aspect. But, he lived with his brother, I owned my condo and he was there all the time already anyway, so it just made sense. I would not have married him if we didn't live together first and we knew we could tolerate each other. I also would not have married him if he could not cook, clean and do laundry for himself.

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