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Mother's day & MILs
In your house, who is responsible for your MILs mday gift?
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Re: Mother's day & MILs
Me. If I didn't think of it she wouldn't get more than a call on Mother's Day.
Now how to train my son to be more thoughtful than his father?? Because I was in labor for 36 hours, barely slept the first year (and still get up too damn early on weekends) and I was told there would be rewards, dammit!
DH doesn't have a relationship with his mother. She left him at birth and his grandparents raised him. His grandmother was his mother. She passed a few years back, but I always make sure we take her flowers.
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I completely agree with this. My problem (if it can be called that) is that I actually really like my MIL, and I would hate to see her hurt on Mother's Day because DH forgot to do anything. She's the kind who would not say anything either and would never bring it up or make passive-aggressive comments.
Ditto.
I could go on and on about my MIL so I will refrain and say DH handles everything and anything related to his mom regardless of the holiday or special event.
This. And dh thinks just a call would be fine. Last year he called and since we were visiting the following weekend, we took the card and bought a plant then and took her out for a meal. Present was met with "where did you find a card after Mother's Day?" Um, I bought it before Mother's Day...
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I take gift giving to my parents very seriously, they raised me, they still give me tons of money and support and although they have serious flaws, they don't have much left right now to look forward to than being thought of on holidays and birthdays.
When I saw what DH was doing, a call MAYBE! I was mortified, so I took it up on myself to get his family members gifts. I guess they don't really put as much into the year round stuff because they focus more on Christmas and what a bonanza it is! However, I know it is greatly appreciated. Not only do i bestow a gift upon his mother, I send photos and a card to his 90 something year old Grandmother whom I have never met.
this. DH = well-intentioned, just forgetful.
LOVE this!! I don't talk to my mother, so she get's nothing and I use to send my grandmother flowers ever year since she was my real mother figure, but she died two years ago. Each year I nag dh one month prior to mothers day...reminding him that it's coming up...giving him suggestions, etc. I hate that although it's "his" responsibility, I'm constantly worried about it. Each year it's very painful lol. The first year I took care of it, I got her a diamond pendant, never seen it since, last year I made her a gift basket with a bunch or cooking stuff, and a super nice, expensive baking dish, I'm not sure she liked it. I put a lot of thought into it though!
One of the years Dh was in charge, we spent all day at the outlets, he finally got her some golf clothes that didn't fit. Offered to exchange them (since she is 1.5 hours from the outlet) and never followed through....totally embarrassing for me!
I feel like I should follow this up by confessing that my moms (yep, plural) don't get anything more than a phone call from me on Mothers Day. So maybe the bar isn't set too high in my household.
What can I say? We are always broke and my moms would prefer to spend time with me than get something they could have bought themselves. Or maybe I'm a selfish b*tch of a daughter. (Now I'm hoping that my moms don't frequent the Nest to see what amazing things you guys do!
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