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heartbroken
i just got a phone call from derek...he will be overseas when the baby is born.
i'm so bummed. there just aren't words...
Re: heartbroken
sadly, no. there is no such thing as leave from overseas unless the deployment is over 365 days. this one will be less than that, but no easier
Oh Val
I'm soo sorry!!
I know your family will be there for you..I know it isn't the same as having your hubby there with you though
*hugs*
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ditto.
Val, I'm so sorry!! I want to reach through the computer and give you a hug
- and then fly out to be with you when the baby is born! There is still lots of time between now and the due date - I hope things work out in the end and that Derek will be able to be there.
oh no, val!!! my heart is breaking for you
i wish we could do something to convince them to let him come home for just 1 day even! they prob dont care about petitions, huh? im sure we could get a bajillion signatures!
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aww, that is really sad.
I feel for you, but especially for him. He must be very upset not to be able to see his baby born.
I hope you both have great family support to lean on.
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There is no such thing as fraternal leave during a deployment. The only time it's ever possible is if the deployment is over 365 days, in which case the unit can arrange for their 2 week in-between leave to be around when the baby is due. Luckily Derek won't be gone that long, but unluckily it means he will miss the birth for sure.
Thankyou for all the kind words and support ladies. It's so wonderful to know I have friends like you who "hug" me when I need it most
So terribly sorry to here this Val. You are being so strong through all of this! I'm glad he won't be away too too long, but it sucks he won't be around for baby. I guess that just means you get lots of extra time with your little bundle all to yourself (trying to look on the bright side lol)
lots of 'Hugs'
Both of these... I'm so sorry Val, this must be so hard for both of you. I know you never would have imagined you would be one of the wives whose husband will not be home. I'm up for a trip to WA, though
oh Val, my heart is breaking for you and Derek. That is just awful and I bet he is just as upset as you are.
Like the pp said, we all greatly admire both you and Derek for the sacrifices you are making for our country, it is amazing.
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I'm so sorry to hear that, Val! You're such a strong woman. You and Derek have to make so many sacrifices. I really admire you guys
I'm sure you'll have family to support you, and we'll be here cheering you along as well. I know it's absolutely no replacement, but know that you will have tons of support.
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The Military does allow paternal leave, but only when they are in the country. It's much different during deployments because at that point, duty and country come first, and it's just unrealistic for them to allot the the leave time on deployments less than a year.
Unfortunately, I can't really say when he's leaving, where he's going or when he'll be back. I know you ladies will understand, it's a security thing not to post that stuff in order to keep Derek safe!