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Another friends WR vent/question

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  • ead1975ead1975

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    Ugh, I know it's thoughtful of her, but is there any rational in my being annoyed/frustrated about this?

    Honestly? No. She's probably just trying to help you out, and you're over thinking it.

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    Ugh, I know it's thoughtful of her, but is there any rational in my being annoyed/frustrated about this?

    Honestly? No. She's probably just trying to help you out, and you're over thinking it.

    I agree with Erica on this.  I think I would be more annoyed that the bride is offering to help but the of BM's aren't. Do you think that might be where the frustration is coming from?
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    Ugh, I know it's thoughtful of her, but is there any rational in my being annoyed/frustrated about this?

    Honestly? No. She's probably just trying to help you out, and you're over thinking it.

    I agree with Erica on this.  I think I would be more annoyed that the bride is offering to help but the of BM's aren't. Do you think that might be where the frustration is coming from?

    Yes, quite possible.  I know that I honestly need to make myself chill the fvck out on bf and all of her WR crap.  It's just hard for me, I miss planning, so I was excited (still am) for the shower to have a chance to be creative again.  It's annoying no one else answers, definitely true.

    Ultimately, I think the bottom problem is that i need to feed a new creative outlet.  I had that with W-planning and now it's gone and I'm in need of something else

     

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    I don't think a bride-to-be should have any part in planning her own shower so I find that a little odd, but overall I think she is just trying to be nice.  Maybe she knows some of the other BM's and her MOH aren't the best party planners so she doesn't want it all to get stuck on you.
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    I agree with Xan.

    Maybe you could tease her and say "no way lady, I'm letting my creative juices flow for this".

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    Ultimately, I think the bottom problem is that i need to feed a new creative outlet.  I had that with W-planning and now it's gone and I'm in need of something else

     

     

    I think you are right on with this assessment.  Could it be that because you miss the wedding planning/creative outlet process, that these different elements annoying you are partially a jealousy that she is in the middle of something that you so much enjoyed and missed?

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    Ultimately, I think the bottom problem is that i need to feed a new creative outlet.  I had that with W-planning and now it's gone and I'm in need of something else

     

     

    I think you are right on with this assessment.  Could it be that because you miss the wedding planning/creative outlet process, that these different elements annoying you are partially a jealousy that she is in the middle of something that you so much enjoyed and missed?

    Most definitely.  Some things I'm annoyed b/c it's a straight up "copy", but I think a large portion of it is that I'm jealous that she's in the planning stage now and my time has come gone.
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    Ultimately, I think the bottom problem is that i need to feed a new creative outlet.  I had that with W-planning and now it's gone and I'm in need of something else

     

     

    I think you are right on with this assessment.  Could it be that because you miss the wedding planning/creative outlet process, that these different elements annoying you are partially a jealousy that she is in the middle of something that you so much enjoyed and missed?

    Most definitely.  Some things I'm annoyed b/c it's a straight up "copy", but I think a large portion of it is that I'm jealous that she's in the planning stage now and my time has come gone.

     

    I feel this way too and I am helping with my sisters wedding. I think maybe finding a new hobby might help... It is so hard to look forward to something for so long then it's over. I totally empathize. 

    I tried helping my bridesmaids out for my shower too, not that I wanted to do all the work, but I WANTED THEM TO DO LITTLE AS WORK AS POSSIBLE. I didn't want to inconvenience anyone. I think she might be doing that too.

    Just tell her thanks for the offer, but you have something special already planned for her. She should let it go.

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