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becca474 · May 2011

Thanks for the advice!!! I sent an email. Hopefully it will work out.

ead1975 · May 2011

The MOH had no right to choose a gift without asking for the rest of the bridal party's input. Just let her know that you're sorry, but the luggage is way out of your budget, and you won't be able to participate in that gift. If there's a smaller amount you're willing to contribute, you could offer that up. But I wouldn't feel badly if there isn't, because it's her bad.

I have no idea what the heck the basket is, though. So good luck with that.

Boynton1286 · May 2011

I have no idea what the basket is either. I would just tell the MOH that you are willing to contribute $X but that is your limit. She will either take it or leave it.

kjhharris · May 2011

That's waaayyyyy outside of what I'd spend on a shower gift. Unless it's my BFF it's probably going to be in the realm of $50. I agree with PP - MOH had no right to assign dollar amounts.

rccola1981 · May 2011

My initial thought on paper products was picnic supplies, but it could also be tp, paper towels-daily paper needs...I'm not real sure how they are handling the basket, either. I would definitely email the MOH and let them know this is just not in your budget right now. She has no way of knowing all of the BM's financial situation and in a time like this $110 each is a lot to ask of people. I know my bridesmaids were not able to contribute that much and I was fine with that-they were putting a lot into planning and had bought dresses!

OceanHutt · May 2011

that sucks about the luggage....

i would think that it would be stationary? you could do something cute with notepads, monagrammed notecards, envelopes, etc....try vista print....you could even get her post its? but vista you could probably do alot with the same stuff

hz80408 · May 2011

ead1975:

The MOH had no right to choose a gift without asking for the rest of the bridal party's input. Just let her know that you're sorry, but the luggage is way out of your budget, and you won't be able to participate in that gift. If there's a smaller amount you're willing to contribute, you could offer that up. But I wouldn't feel badly if there isn't, because it's her bad.

I have no idea what the heck the basket is, though. So good luck with that.

This is very well said. Unfortunately the MOH seems to have little etiquette, or a false idea that everyone spends a ridiculous amount on bridal showers. I was call/email and say as Erica suggests. You are not in the wrong to think this is out of line! Good luck!

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