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I'm a horrible SIL.
So, my SIL's baby shower is this coming Saturday (kind of surprised they planned it for Mother's Day weekend) and I'm not going.
I waited until the LAST. POSSIBLE. MOMENT. to rsvp because I just kept going back and forth with whether or not I could go. Hubs said that it was solely up to me, he'd understand either way.
There's a huge part of me that really wants to go, but there's this gut feeling that I'll have an emotional breakdown while I'm there. I feel horrible. She's due June 3rd, and we're absolutely going up as soon as she goes in to labor. I've been shopping for her for a while now and have tons of stuff to put in a gift basket and we bought one "big" item from her registry, so I'll just take all of that with us when we go up.
They live in Pittsburgh, so I guess I'm "excusing" myself from ditching the shower because it's not like I'm not going to something 20 minutes from me where I could make a quick appearance and then leave. So, between the cost of traveling from Charlotte to Pitt, coupled with the fact that it's Mother's Day weekend AND I was previously planning on running in the Mother's Day Breast Cancer 5k while my Mom and Sister walk in it... makes me feel a little okay about not going. But.. I still feel bad.
Hoping she understands and doesn't take it personally.
OK, just needed to ramble for a few. Phew.
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Re: I'm a horrible SIL.
October 11, 2008
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I personally don't think it should be a problem given the distance and your other committment on that date. I'm surprised it's on that weekend too.
Only thing, is the gift something she'll want before the baby comes, or use immediately? I know how I felt, wanting everything put together, etc. before C came - I wasn't going to be fiddling with anything after he came (I don't mean clothes, obviously they can be washed any time).
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Definitely nothing to feel bad about. It's not in the same state, and you've had a lot going on recently.
I wouldn't be going either, and yes, I would still be feeling slightly guilty about it. But just remember this is what's best for you right now. And you'll see her and her LO once the baby is born - that's what really matters.
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I thought about this, too. So, the big stuff that we ordered from her registry will be sending to her this week (so hopefully she gets it right around the time of her shower) and she can have it all ready for when Reagan is born. The stuff I'm doing in the gift basket are just a lot of little, cute things and things that I'm sure she'll also get stocked up on at the shower. I might go ahead and send it a week or two before her due date so she can go through it all.
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