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I feel weird
So for the first time in the nearly 10 years I've been on the pill, I missed my period. Just straight up DIDN'T COME. Took a pregnancy test yesterday a.m. which was negative. I feel weird for the following reasons:
1. W(hy)tf didn't my period come? I never really thought I was preggers b/c I am like the model citizen for taking my pills every day and at the appropriate time. Plus, I don't "feel" pregnant ya know? But anyway i find this odd. What I find odder is...
2. I was kind of disappointed to only see one little negative line on that test. HELLOOOO I am not the girl that wants babies anytime soon. Or am I? It's amazing how your true feelings tend to show when you're forced to face them.
We're still waiting until at least next year and nothing has changed on that front, but this whole thing just makes me question how well I really know myself.
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Hugs! I've been there, I've been on the pill for several years and about 2 years ago my periods just went away. I freaked out for several reasons, but my gynecologist said that it wasn't that uncommon and that it was actually healthier, not to mention more convenient. But the biggest problem is you have NO way to know if you are pregnant, eek!
I go back on forth on whether I'm ready to have kids. I think emotionally I am there, but realistically I'd like to wait a few more years. Regardless, maybe it's time for you and your DH to have some discussions and make some plans. . .
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I feel that I am 100% emotionally ready for a baby but we are not financially ready for a baby. I want to be able to get into and finish grad school and settle comfortable into a job before thinking of kids. And maybe buy a condo.
Hope it all turns out for the best!
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@Margaret - We definitely talked about it and DH agreed that he felt a little disappointed. Emphasis on the "little" though, for both of us.
@Laurie - Yeah I think stress has a lot to do with it as there has been a lot going on, especially on the job front.
@Paula - Weren't you feeling super sick, though? I actually thought of you this weekend as this whole thing was going on but I thought I remembered you not feeling well. I started taking my pills as scheduled for this month so AF definitely will not be coming, but I can assure you I'd be taking the second test in my 2-pack if the slightest wave of nausea comes around!
i totally understand rach with the exception that dh and i are currently trying to get pregnant. i missed my period for 5 days last week - we tested and it said negative but we figured that maybe my levels weren't high enough yet to show a positive sign...on the 5th day i got my period. in the past two months i had two periods in one month that were only 20 days apart and then it took almost 32 days to get my period again. it was really hard on jeff and i - i spent earlier this week in a ball on our bed crying in a way i'm sure he's never heard nor does he ever want to hear again.
you're right - getting the negative sign really puts things to the test, huh? i am SO happy with my life, yet when i got my period after a week of us thinking i might be pregnant, it was utter devastation.
*hugs*
Ah the joys of a woman's body! You never know what's going on!
I think being married really pushes your baby buttons. It happened to me too. Before marriage, I was teetering on the fence but now, I'm so ready (at least most of the time).
((hugs))
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First, Jeni, I have been there...a couple of times, and it is heart-wrenching horrible! I feel for you, love! Nothing people can say ever really make you feel better, but I'm hoping that you get a positive soon...you guys deserve it!
@Rach - EEEK!!!!! I'm thinking my little baby-wanting Florida mama is starting to come out! Okay, for your "planning" I'm hoping for whatever you want, but for my own selfish reasons, I'm hoping you still end up with a positive out of all of this! Hehehe! BTW - both Jeff and I were conceived when our mothers were on the pill...so was my oldest niece...just saying...haha!
I feel for both of you and Lori and anyone else who is/was actively trying and having a hard time. When the possibility first entered my mind, my FIRST thought (seriously) was how unfair it would be if I got all knocked up when so many women like you guys want it sooooo badly. If this turns out to be IT (which I honestly don't think so) then we will embrace it, but I swear each and every one of my baby vibes are being sent to those of you who really need them!
Oh man, I can just imagine all of the emotions! Good idea about taking another test in a couple weeks if you start to feel at all different. And I agree that it might be too early to get a positive on the test. But maybe this is a sign for you that you are more ready then you thought!!
Yeah, I definitely know how you feel. I have been on it about 7 years and a few months ago it just went missing for a month. It was a month I was really stressed about work and stuff so I am sure that had something to do with it.
I do know the feeling you meant in #2. Its almost like "oh I missed my period, I must be prego" and you start to come to terms with it and get excited. Then you are not and it gets confusing.
You know yourself well I am sure that it was just something that you don't have to think about too often. It shows that you would be ready (in a mental sense) if it were to happen, which is obviously a good thing.