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Mothers Day ?
How do you split your time on Mother's Day between your mother and MIL? If you split it across the weekend does anyone get offended?
For the momma's themselves how do you split your time between grandma's (your mom and mil) and yourself? Do you still make the grandma's priority like you may have before or do you get to have more say so now?
Just curious. I told dh his mom has been a little spoiled because we never have to split our time up.
Re: Mothers Day ?
We send MIL something and we sometimes do something with my mom since she is local. My mom is pretty low-key about doing stuff since it is their anniversary on 5/11 and ours is 5/9. I usually try to stop over for a bit with some sort of present, but nothing too crazy. As long as an effort is made, everyone is happy.
I know once we have our wee one, I will want to be with my kiddo first and foremost and I think my mom will get that. MIL, who knows. She will probably want to spend the day with "her" grandbaby.
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My sister (my niece), and I take our grandma, mom and my MIL out for lunch on Saturday. It works out really well. Fortunately we only have 1 grandma, and my sis MIL lives in Gaylord (or we'd bring her too).
This year we will prob go to my inlaws for dinner on Sunday. In the future...prob just stay home with my kids on Sunday.
For fathers day, my sis and I go see my dad for lunch on Sat or Sun while our H's go golfing with their own dads separate. Then usually we go to my inlaws for dinner, while my sis goes to her inlaws.
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We don't do a whole lot... maybe a little BBQ action at my parents. Since MIL lives out of town we don't do anything. I think maybe DH sends a card? This year I will have P send a card to her too.
I just talked to my mom today. My dad will be out of town for work on Sunday so maybe we will ask my mom to come to our house for some grilling instead.
The more important thing, in my opinion, is Derby Day on Saturday! Can't wait!
YAY for awesome birthdays! Mine is May 10th, so I'm sort of in a similar situation, even though I'm obviously not a mom. It's not usually about me, which is totally fine. Sorry your mom is ruining your day!
As for the question....we're taking MIL out to brunch. DH usually plants flowers in her garden with her if the weather doesn't suck. We're going to my mom's house for dinner...or maybe they'll come over. IDK. We're celebrating Mother's Day & my b'day.
I find that incredibly sweet/cute. What a nice son!
We typically just do whatever MIL wants. There have been times that we had to cancel or postpone dinner because of dh's on call schedule.
I am curious to see how thing will go in the future (dh has hinted that he will make a point to not be on call for it now) I suppose it won't change too much. I have hopes that I'll get a little priority time with my kid but MIL is a cryer so who knows.
His relationship with his mom & his dad (despite my FIL being a big PITA) was a huge selling point when I met him.
I have my whole family over for mother's day every year. It's the only holiday I host at my house so far. DH and my mom have May birthdays, so we always do a combo of mother's day and their birthdays.
This year we're going to have MIL/SFIL over to our house for dinner the day before. DH has had a rocky relationship with his mom in the past, so we don't always do something with them, but we've been trying to make more of an effort recently.
Also, DH's whole family has some sort of defect where they cannot make plans more than two weeks in advance. I refuse to make my family wait to make plans, so we usually make plans with my family and work DH's family in last minute.
We will actually be in Florida with my MIL
usually we are with my mom.
I had a gift I was going to bring down but recently found out not only was their flight and hotel covered by someone else, we are paying for parking at the airport, a car for the weekend and their meals... so I don't know..not feeling like another gift is needed!!!!!!!!!!!
We're very low key about mother's day, usually we do nothing.
This year, I was feeling kind of bad because things have been rocky with my mom lately, so I'm driving up to Midland to spend the day with her. I told DH to plan something with him mom. So it's a win-win IMO!
My birthday is 5/11 too. But it's always about me. LOL I don't have kids and my mom is the most selfless person in the world. We usually turn it into a joint celebration where we both get to be AW's for the day.
We typically ran from house to house all day on Sunday, making sure to hit MIL's house, GMIL's house and SMIL's house...I'd usually see my mom the day before. I HATE running from place to place like that, especially on Sundays, so this year, I told my DH that all I wanted to was be home and celebrate my first "real" Mother's Day the way I wanted. He totally agreed.
So this year, we're having everyone over (except SMIL, that would be awkward) for Mother's Day brunch on Saturday early in the day. After, we'll go visit SMIL and bring her flowers. Sunday, we're relaxing at home, DH said he's going to cook me a nice dinner.
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