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she is pregnant, but he doesn't consider her a mother

interesting --

on the radio this morning this girl called and was really upset.

she is 6 1/2 months pregnant with her 1st child and her husband didn't want to buy her a Mothers Day gift because " she isn't a  mother since she is still pregnant "

seriously ?

she is incubating a human, much less YOUR child - i'm pretty sure she qualifies as a mother.

.. i would totally kick him in the nads ...

Re: she is pregnant, but he doesn't consider her a mother

  • Well, he didn't have to be a jerk about it. I kind of feel like this won't be my first mother's day - next year will be my first mother's day. But I'm not telling Trav that and he can make up his own mind. Then I'll do the same for Father's Day. I thought this was a brilliant idea Idea
  • If she wants to celebrate this year, then they should.  I didn't want to celebrate last year, so this will be my first mother's day.  I am looking forward to it. : )
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  • DH said that last year.

    I didn't kick him in the nads, but he got some sort of retaliation. I'm sure the word douchebag was used at some point.

    I don't even know that he'll get me anything for Mother's Day this year...I bet he forgets it's on Sunday. Time will tell!

    Ali- I think that's the reason Mother's Day falls before Father's Day on the calendar. Women need to know how much effort to put forth for Father's Day so things are even.

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  • I didn't consider the first Mother's Day after I got pregnant my first Mother's Day, but the rest of my family [including H] did. I was game for not celebrating, but my H didn't say anything remotely like that. That H from the radio was a hag.
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  • I don't consider this to be my first mother's day.

    But if Baby A is 10 days early, H will be celebrating father's day. 

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  • They talked about this on my local Bump board. One of the ladies mentioned that they do have Mother-to-be cards and I wouldnt mind getting one of those cards. But I dont expect anything, especially since I am only 10w1d.
  • The guy is just plain wrong! I celebrated Mother's Day while I was still preggo.  I didn't celebrate it in depth like I did last year, but it was recognized!
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  • Kinda off subject, but I got a Mother's Day card from one of my friends with the nicest thing written by her inside.  It made me cry.

    On topic-I wasn't PG last year at this time.  I wouldn't have expected anything, but if I got a card I would have thought it was nice.

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  • Ok, well, I'm kind of on his side...
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  • I wouldn't have expected anything for Mother's Day if I was pregnant.  A card from DH would've been sweet, but not necessarily expected.  Now, I don't agree with how this guy handled the situation.  DH probably would've gotten slapped if he'd said that to me at 6-1/2 months pregnant.

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  • so - for those of you who are pregnant ( right now )  you do not consider yourself a mother ? 

    i don't understand. 

     

     

  • I don't think of it that way either.  Didn't think of my sis as a mother until my nephew was born.
  • imagethe domesticated newlywed:

    so - for those of you who are pregnant ( right now )  you do not consider yourself a mother ? 

    i don't understand. 

     

     

    I mean, I am on my way to becoming a mother, but I don't feel I am yet.

    Hard to explain. It's just how I feel. 

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  • imagethe domesticated newlywed:

    so - for those of you who are pregnant ( right now )  you do not consider yourself a mother ? 

    i don't understand. 

     

    More of a mother-in-training. I know my baby is growing inside of me but I don't think I'll really feel like his mom until I see him on the outside.

    I wouldn't turn down a card or dinner from H though...

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  • imagemsmarsh:

    I wouldn't turn down a card or dinner from H though...

     

    I doubt anyone will say " oh no, I won't accept your gift, I'm merely pregnant, not a mother "  

     by accepting dinner or a card you acknowledge that you are considered a mother. 

    I'm not trying to start anything but like its just strange -  my sister was 10 weeks pregnant on Mothers Day 2 years - I bought her a card and little thing of stretch mark lotion -- she loved it.

  • imagemsmarsh:
    imagethe domesticated newlywed:

    so - for those of you who are pregnant ( right now )  you do not consider yourself a mother ? 

    i don't understand. 

     

    More of a mother-in-training. I know my baby is growing inside of me but I don't think I'll really feel like his mom until I see him on the outside.

    I wouldn't turn down a card or dinner from H though...

    This. I don't feel like I'm really "mothering" anyone yet, besides doing my best with my nutrition, getting the nursery together, etc. I am a mother at this point, but it's a weird limbo area.

  • Greg doesn't view this as my first Mother's Day either. He says it isn't until next year. I sorta agree with him, but keep busting his balls over it.
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