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My problem

If you are sick of me whining about work, please ignore.

I'm feeling really resentful towards work right now because of this whole cost cutting business. We were already pretty low on funds at home because we have several big purchases to make right now, and not being able to make more money to help out (and in fact, making less) makes me feel very helpless. Because of that, I am resentful.

I don't know that I want a new job and I certainly don't want to leave them hanging. I realize I don't owe them any favors, but I do have a loyalty to this place and they have done a lot for me. I know that things will get better financially in a couple months and I may even be able to petition to working 5 days a week in 6 months to a year, which would boost my income by thousands of dollars per year. 

There is a job I was considering applying for that is 70 minutes away (a different one than the one my sister recommended me for). I'm not sure of the pay range but the increase would no doubt be substantial; not to mention, this is an excellent company to work for and the work I would be doing would be something I enjoy. I would have to take into account gas prices, lost time with May due to the longer commute and a slightly longer work day, and probably less flexibility.

On paper I am not a perfect fit for the position so I may not even get an interview (although a friend who works there put in a referral in their career system for me).

So...analyze me. I'm having a hard time deciding if I even want to apply. I'm nervous I would be disappointed if I didn't get it, or even worse, nervous I would get it and still don't know if I should take it.

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Re: My problem

  • It never hurts to apply. If you're this resentful now, it's going going to build.

    I say give it a shot. 

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  • Yup, I agree.  I say apply!  I think you're giong to be feeling more resentful once you start working even less hours.
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  • I agree that you should apply.  Even if you stay where you are, I think you'll feel less resentful if you know you have options.
  • imageLarissaAnn:
    I agree that you should apply.  Even if you stay where you are, I think you'll feel less resentful if you know you have options.
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    imageLarissaAnn:
    I agree that you should apply.  Even if you stay where you are, I think you'll feel less resentful if you know you have options.
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    Agreed. Never hurts to try.
  • I'm also going to say to apply.  I'm sort of in a similar situation.  While my pay isn't getting cut, gas is going up and I drive 22 miles each way to work.  On top of that health insurance went up $40 a month.  So, in a way I'm making less money.

    I was staying where I'm at but I may see if I can move closer and cut my losses now.  I'd lose tenure days, seniority, and various benefits that help when we have a baby but the truth is, I don't know when that will happen.  I'd also have to pay back $6,000 for tuition reimbursement for my master's but I'd just pay it out.

    It's a tough position but I think you'll end up being more resentful and feel stuck if you stay where you are without trying for something else.

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  • It never hurts to apply for something new, because you never know if you'll even get it.  If you do get it you may not actually want it or you might be able to use it as leverage if they really don't want you to leave.

     

  • I absolutely, whole heartedly, think you should apply.

    No harm, no foul.

    Write yourself a solid cover letter and send it with your resume.

    I have used job offers as leverage in various positions before (it's always worked in my benefit, actually) and like Vikki said, if you're hesitant to leave, if you were to get a job offer, this could be tremendous bargaining power for you.

    And if you don't get the job, you're testing the waters and consider it practice run/interviewing. It never, ever, ever hurts to brush up on those skills. I like to interview 1-2x a year just so I don't get rusty, actually! 

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