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Sex position - help
I'm looking for some tips on how to be successful at woman on top. I'm a larger girl and have a hard time getting everything lined up. For one we have a super soft bed so it seems like we just sink and its very difficult to accomplish this position. My H is very patient but I know it is important to him to add this to our sex routine. I am more than willing to try each and every time but it never works out. I try it kneeling because if I crouch down I loose my balance with the softness of the mattress. Are there variations that anyone has found easier? I read somewhere on the internet about using pillows to kneel on but it just doesn't seem to work for us. I'm at a loss and its frustrating. Our sex life is very good and we are both satisfied but this one position I haven't mastered. I feel like the most ungraceful person in the world. Any help and suggestions would be most appreciated.
Re: Sex position - help
You could try the couch and maybe you won't sink as much. You could also try putting a pillow under your DH's butt to help with aligning things. You could also try reverse cowgirl or this one.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/cross.shtml (NSFW btw)
The Cross
ETA: I would also really recommend getting a Liberator Ramp. It really helps when you're on the larger side.
Try it on the floor, just put down a blanket and some pillows for him.
The couch may also work, but it may take some practice to get the positioning right.
Definitely try the floor! I'm a bigger girl too, and while we don't have problems on the bed, I always feel like I can last longer in this position on the floor, becuase it's less "work." I would also try reverse cow girl, although I can't say that I've found it easier than other woman-on-top positions. My best bet is always to be on my knees. Plus it makes it much easier to lean over and kiss, let him touch my breasts, etc.