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Help me feel sexy

kindra1kindra1
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I am dire need of some help. My boyfriend and I do not live together so when we are not together, we skype. He always tries to have me be sexy and do things on skype and I always get nervous. Its not that he is pressuring me or that I dont want to do it but I get self concious. We have been together sexually but for some reason, it is easier if he is physically there. Please help me figure out how to not be so nervous and feel sexy about this new aspect in our relationship.

 

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  • crogers19crogers19
    My hubs is in the air force so there is a lot of time apart and a lot of webcam time. first of all if you are nervous, a glass of wine helps TONS. go get some sexy lingerie something that YOU feel good in. Just start by wearing your outfit, drink your wine and talk, then once you feel calm start playing some sexy music that you would feel hot dancing to, then just wiggle around in front of the camera. Eventually you will feel more comfortable to do "whatever".
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  • pastrypuff9000pastrypuff9000

    H and I were long distance for a while and used the webcams to keep our sexual relationship alive.  

    Is your husband doing things as well, or is he just gawking at you?  I enjoyed doing things while watching him do things.  It might have been a different story if he was just watching me.  

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  • aWm2010aWm2010
    My ex a few years back was over seas because he was Army, so we used the webcam whenever we got the chance.  As we were having a conversation through web cam I would slowly undress for him.  A piece of clothing at a time, so it would work up into it. haha. It can be fun once you get used to it.
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  • kellyt89kellyt89

    imagecrogers19:
    My hubs is in the air force so there is a lot of time apart and a lot of webcam time. first of all if you are nervous, a glass of wine helps TONS. go get some sexy lingerie something that YOU feel good in. Just start by wearing your outfit, drink your wine and talk, then once you feel calm start playing some sexy music that you would feel hot dancing to, then just wiggle around in front of the camera. Eventually you will feel more comfortable to do "whatever".

    This is great advice. I was never comfortable with webcam stuff until my current BF. You could also just start by talking about sexual things or looking at things together.It doesn't even have to be porn - I started looking at this site --> http://www.sexinfo101.com/ with him and just talking about what positions we'd like to try. As we talked, I got more turned on and more comfortable to just do what I felt was natural while talking on the webcam. 

    Don't feel like you have to go all out the first time either - if you haven't done webcam stuff before, chances are any type of touching or clothes coming off will be exciting at first and it will get more and more enjoyable as you both feel more comfortable and willing to experiment.

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  • magpie1127magpie1127
    Ditto on the wine. I would also spend some time alone walking around in your lingerie, recording on your webcam, and drinking your wine. Don't look at it as practice though-this isn't a show. It should just be natural and real, laughter and sharing of personal thoughts included. If you're nervous, tell him! (I'm sure he'd think a sexy, giggly, nervous you would be very sexy!) just drink your wine and make sire you yourself are turned on-this isn't about impressing him, it's about sharing it with him!
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  • hunter8768hunter8768

    Feeling comfortable in what you are wearing helps.  Wear your sexy outfits all of the time when you are alone.  You will begin to feel sexier in them and actually look forward to wearing them.  So when hubby logs on to Skype you, then you will feel confident and bold.  Guys like this!!  Seriously, only wear your sexy stuff when you are alone and you will get comfortable in them.

    I agree with the wine too.  I'm not much of a dancer, terrible actual, but, get a few beers in me and I feel like Fred Astaire!!!

    Definitely keep a bottle of wine nearby!!

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  • SylviaAnneSylviaAnne
    Practice, Practice, Practice.  Wear your sexy little outfit while you clean your house.  If you guys want to talk dirty, but you are nervous about that, just cover the camera up for awhile, then as time goes on, uncover it.  You won't be sexy if you don't feel sexy.
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