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paternity leave question for the moms and moms-to-be

How many of our husbands have taken/plan to take paternity leave?  When did they take it and for how long?

I've noticed a recent trend at my work. New fathers I work with and the husbands of the new moms I work with are taking bona fide paternity leaves - one or two weeks when the baby arrives, then two-three months of paid paternity leave or FMLA once the mom goes back to work. It's very refreshing!  On the other hand, it also sounds like part of the reason why some of the dads are staying home is people having a hard time finding daycare openings.

Re: paternity leave question for the moms and moms-to-be

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    DH gets 4 weeks 100%-- it's new this year so they aren't sure if it has to be taken consecutively or if he could do 2 weeks at the beginning and then maybe 2 weeks when I go back to work to ease the transition. I can't imagine being home 4 weeks straight with him!! It seems a little intense.
  • DH is taking one week of vacation....thats the current plan we have.  He teaches college though so he mentioned going in and teaching his class then coming back home.  Depends how his schedule looks next quarter. 
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  • DH has no leave that was considered paternity, per say.  He was able to take 3 weeks vacation basically, and used his PTO to cover it.

    It worked out nicely because  we have a transition week where we get paid for 40 hours but only have to work 20.  So I took  my 6 week STD, my MIL watched her for the transition week, then DH took 3 weeks vacation.  T didn't have to go to DCP until 10 weeks old.  By then we had things pretty much down pat so it was a nice transition to DCP

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  • Our situation is a bit dicey, as NOAA has just started to implement paternity leave. As of now, Kyle worked out a plan with the ship to not go on the last cruise, as it would have been right around my new and improved due date. After that, he gets 15 working days (3 wks) of paternity leave, and has worked out a plan to pretty much be home for the entire summer with the agreement that he will be taking courses to "enrich his leadership skills" in his next assignment through USM. Luckily it has all worked out so far, but I think it is awesome to hear that more offices are implementing paternity leave!
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  • DH took two weeks off when DD was born, but I'm a SAHM so I didn't really need him to stay home for an extended leave.  I think if he'd stayed home much longer than he did, it would have been harder for me and DD to get a routine going. 

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  • DH is a HS teacher, his contract allows him to take up to 12 paid days off.  He is taking all of this week - luckily he was on vacation last week and didn't have to use any time while we waited and waited and waited for Colby's arrival. 

    He's in his busiest trimester at school, so that plays into the decision to stay home only 5-ish days.  He could take longer, but it would be unpaid, and since my "maternity leave" isn't all it's cracked up to be, we're not able to take anything extra.  He'll still have the flexibility to take the other 7 days if needed, but will be home with us for the summer in a few weeks.  I'll go back to work (dreading it already) at the end of July, and DH will be home for about 4 more weeks, making it so we don't need to use daycare until Colby is 4 months old!  

  • MH's company is too small for FMLA, so he had to use two weeks of his PTO -- one personal and one vacation.  I wish he had paternity leave. :(

     

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  • hmm. I had planned on DH taking 1 week off when the baby is born. I don't know if his job offers anything beyond his regular PTO. I will have to check. I am scared about finding daycare in time. I called the other day just to price things out and the 2 I called are all booked up and put us on a wait list....and I live in the boonies, so Iwas pretty surprised! yikes! So yeah, maybe him taking more time off after I go back to work might be something we have to consider.
  • DH could have taken 12 weeks FMLA, but didn't since we're opposite shifts anyway.  He did take 4 weeks, and we had a blast!!!  We took a bunch of day trips, went to my family in Northern NY for 2 weeks.  We used it like a vacation.  But then again, I bounced back quickly, so I felt healthy enough to do a lot.
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  • DH could have , but used two weeks of his vacation. He was only going to take one week but that was spent still in the hospital and he wanted to be home with her for a few days ( and work on the house :P)
  • DH used sick days... he was home for 3 weeks, one of which was April school vacation and he is a teacher so didn't have to use any days for that then was home for 2 weeks after, he could have taken more but he took a few individual days later on, my mom came down for a week and then MIL came down for a week and then a friend was here for a week so I wasn't home alone with them until they were about 6 weeks old and I was ready by then!
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