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Maybe it's time to see an RE.
I really don't want to even admit it. I felt like something was wrong when I got off BC and 22 months later that feeling has never left. I keep holding out hope that we can conceive on our own but my hope is fading. It comes and goes, comes and goes. I blamed it on the BC but not even sure I can blame that still...it's been almost 2 years. There's such a thing as secondary IF and a year ago I asked people that are having trouble conceiving #2 what the next step would be and I took their advice.
I went in for an SIS (the saline sonogram) last summer (I posted about it at the time). What drove me to go was not so much the fact that I wasn't getting pregnant but the fact that I was having 2 to 3 full blown periods a month for 6 months and it worried me. They found nothing and had no explanation as to why I would bleed so much. I decided to wait another year before I made another move.
Well, a year is approaching, currently at 22 months off BC, and still no significant changes to AF and no baby, although it seems my multiple periods have a schedule of sorts. They start about the same time each month, give or take a day, twice a month each month with the exception of a month here and there where there's just one. My cycles (or what's calculated to be my cycles) last only about 13-15 days. It's frustrating. It stops then within a few days it starts all over again. How can I even "O" in that timeframe?
I talk myself out of wanting a baby. Sometimes it's easier to do that rather than face what may be. I tell myself I already have a child and it would be great to still be in my 30s when she graduates high school and have no other child to raise. Then I think about the joy a baby would bring (although I know the stress they can also bring) and the fact that Andrew wants a baby. He wasn't in our lives until Suri was close to turning 6 so he never experienced her baby years. He has mentioned multiple times that he wishes he was around for that.
So here I am talking about this and I don't know why...what got into me to bring it up now? I guess it bothers me a lot more than I care to admit. Will I go to an RE? Probably one day. Maybe I'll just keep holding onto the hope that it will just happen one day on its own. I mean I had one already why can't it happen again?
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Re: Maybe it's time to see an RE.
I posted on another board about all this. They all are experiencing secondary IF and here was a response I received:
"I had a friend who had a menstural cycle like yours. It turned out she wasn't ovulating. She recently had a beautiful baby girl with ivf."
Exactly what I feared. Granted it may not be the same for me but it's what I am scared of. IVF....am I even ready to take in that concept?
I'm not jumping to conclusions but it's something that I may have to consider one day and I don't even know how to handle that.
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I charted for about 2 months toward the beginning but AF decided not to show up for two months and then it showed up all the time. I couldn't make sense out of my temps so I gave up.
I think I would be up for supplements. Anything would help at this point. At least something to give me hope since I'm not quite ready for that next step of seeing an RE. I feel like if my cycles can regulate them everything would be fine. Just how do I get it to do that....
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This. I've always feared secondary infertility. I agree with Emily, though. Having two cycle a month is not normal and with all that bleeding it could make you anemic. I'd at least get checked out by your OB even if you aren't ready to see an RE yet.
I agree that 2 a month is not normal and you can't ovulate in that time frame. Definitely see your OB and if she/he can't give you a reason definitely make the appointment with the RE. I am also a big fan of trying the more natural route, so if you know of a good accupunturist see them before calling the RE to see if they can't help you regulate.
Kasi I'm sorry to hear you are still dealing with this. I think the other ladies gave you great advice to at least go see an OB to see if they can help you get regulated.
I'm hoping you get some answers.
Thank you all. I don't know where all that came from yesterday. I guess I was having weak moment. I try to stay strong through everything but once in awhile I break and I didn't know where else to go.
I have today off and I think I am going to blow off some steam/sadness at the gym after I drop Suri off at school then come home and make the call to my doc to get a referral. You are right. I have to at least get my cycle regulated. Something isn't right. Once I get that figured out then I can make the next step of TTC.
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Kasi-I am sorry you are going through this. Take your time. Even if you see an RE and do not do anything, at least you made the step to see an RE.
BTW-IVF scares the cr@p out of me too.
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Exactly this. The RE will be able to better help you with all things related to your cycle, not just the getting KU part. OB's are great after you're actually pregnant, but when it comes to the challenges, they aren't so great.
We've elected that we will never do IVF. We'll try 5 more IUI's and then call it quits. IVF is just too scary, too expensive and still no guarantee.
It is completely normal to be freaked out about taking the BIG step and moving to the RE. Trust me, it took me a long time (about a year) to get to that point. And then another year after that before I started doing IUIs.
You'll find the right pace for yourself. You can talk to me anytime.
A+S | Met 8/24/06 | Married 9/27/08
Started TTC 12/2008 | dx PCOS 5/2009
6 failed clomid/femara/TI cycles, 1 failed clomid/ovidrel/IUI cycle
Successful Cycle: 5/12/11 - 1000mg Metformin + 100mg Clomid(late response) + TI = BFP
? 2/13/12 - We proudly welcomed our daughter, Hadley Teresa! ?
? Lots of Luck to all of 3T/IF ?
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