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I keep hearing people say the phrase "hot mess." Um, you do realize something has to be both hot and a mess to qualify, right? So your pile of dirty laundry? Sorry, not a hot mess. Just a mess.
What misused terms drive you bonkers?
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Re: Misused terms vent
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I agree, it's typically in reference to a person. But there has to be some iota of "hot" in there, or it's just a mess. A pile of garbage is not a hot mess.
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I agree with Passanie, although it is a phrase I NEVER hear. Except, you had better believe my laundry is a HOT MESS, it is SEXY and not at all not hot ;-)
I have always taken it to be that she (or he) is hot... you know one night stand material, but dude she is a MESS... either trashy mess or just baggage central.
I don't think of "hot mess" with such a literal interpretation. My understanding is that it's just a slang way of saying something is disorganized. Sort of like how I'll say "I'm crazy busy," but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm crazy (though DH might beg to differ
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As for my misused term pet peeve, I've mentioned it before: I can't stand when people say, "I could care less" when it's supposed to be "I couldn't care less." Also, would of/could of/should of instead of would've/could've/should've (or really "have" is what's actually correct but the abbreviation would be better than "of").
I'm sure there are a lot more, but those are the first two to come to mind.
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"In a perfect world" or "In my perfect world" - it's not a/your perfect world, so deal with the cards you've been dealt.
"Reinventing the wheel" - MIL uses this all the time. It's like nails on a chalkboard for me.
Hahahahaha....I'm laughing because as soon as I read the words "hot mess" I had a visual of Amy Winehouse and Linsay Lohan. I think I need to back away from E! lol
Couldn't care less bugs the poop out of me, I whole-heartedly agree.
Not so much misused as an overused vent - I had a boss that said "it is a moving target" about EVERYTHING...oh, and "flip side." Seriously bugged.
The correct phrase is "champing at the bit," not "chomping at the bit."
Champing=to betray impatience
Chomping=chewing loudly
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You learn something new ever day... I had no idea! I'll be sure to use "champing" from now on. And think of you when I do.
Woa, no way. I have been schooled.
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B, I'm not quite sure I follow your logic on hot mess, as I always just considered it to mean (as in this definition from urban dictionary)
Someone or Something that is such a mess... the level of it, is off of the charts. It's past pathetic, past pitiful. It's to the point you almost have to walk away to keep from bustin a gut. Hot messes can exist in levels.
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I've never heard it misused using this type of definition.
I also feel a bit dumb now, as I was totally with Hannikan on the "chomping" at the bit thing. Of course you're the first one to ever correct me, so I guess the majority of people are with me in dumb dumb land, so please don't judge too harshly on that one
Look at the first three definitions on that page. All refer to some amount of attractiveness. Heh, we're citing Urban Dictionary like it's actually an authority (though it does have all those little thumbs ups and downs). It's most often used to refer to people like Lindsay Lohan. So what is the alternate definition of hot if it doesn't mean attractive in this sense? What does it mean? Why is it there?
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This is where the confusion stems from. A horse actually does not chOmp at the bit, he chAmps at it.
I'm with CarFar and hannikan on this one. At least, that's how I'd use it (if I'd ever use it).
I was going to say champing actually does mean to chew loudly, even though the idiom together (champing at the bit) means to be impatient to start. It's pretty literal in horse racing terms. You'd champ at a bit too if someone has pulling it back in your mouth making your head pull back
I'm with the people who are annoyed with irregardless and I could care less, but my biggest pet peeve is sentences peppered mid-sentence or repeatedly with know what I mean? I can't stand that one.
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