September 2009 Weddings
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Kmo
Will you share more about your anxiety disorder? If you don't mind me asking, what meds are you on? Robin has a real problem with anxiety to the point that he regularly throws up because of it. Any time something is a big deal or even just a little different, like the first few days of school or big baseball games, he gets sick. About a month before our wedding, the doctor prescribed a med to help, but it didn't. He took it for a little over a month and then stopped. He spent the whole day of our wedding throwing up. We were both super afraid that he'd get sick at the alter and we'd be one of those wedding horrors videos. He's also the type of person who gets himself worked up about something going wrong. Yesterday, he started in with "if the insurance company doesn't cover all of the damages, we're going to...." and started ranting about exactly what he'd say to the insurance agents. I just had to stop him and say "we're not going to get ourselves all worked up about what if something goes wrong. Just think the best and if it doesn't work out we'll deal then." Sorry, this is getting longer than I meant it to be. When I saw your reply in the depression post, I just thought I'd ask.
Re: Kmo
No problem at all
Apparently, I have always been pretty anxious. My grandma said even when I was a little girl, I would always worry about my mom (her depression and worrying about her commiting suicide) and never truely was a care free little girl. In my early 20's is when it was really getting too much to handle. I could never turn my brain off. I began trying to sleep a lot because it was the only way I would stop worrying. However, I did have problems sleeping, especially falling asleep because I would always be worrying about something.
I used to have anxiety attacks a lot. Mostly in crowded public places, but also in the comfort of my own home. I wouldn't be able to breath, my hands and face would go numb, and like Robin, I would sometimes throw up.
Also, everything was always extreme in my head. Like, if somebody wouldn't answer their phone, I thought they were dead. If I had a few bruises or something silly like that, I was positive I was dying from some serious disease. If there wasn't something to worry about, my head would create something. If something good happened, I was positive something terrible was going to happen soon after.
I logically knew that most of my thoughts were ridiculous, but that didn't matter. It was like my logic part of my brain and my anxiety part could never come together. Even if my logic told me that my thinking someone was dead because they didn't answer their phone was silly, my anxiety told me otherwise. My anxiety side always won.
I still have more anxiety than most, but on the meds, I can function a lot better in my daily life. I also only have had a couple anxiety attacks over the last few years (a few when I was pregnant, since lowered my dose).
I am on Sertraline. I am now on 150mg. I was on 75, then upped to 100 and eventually to 150, since the other doses weren't working as well.
Feel free to ask more questions if I didn't cover everthing you wanted to know about.
Like, if somebody wouldn't answer their phone, I thought they were dead.
Thanks so much. This is definitely Robin. He'll worry himself sick, if I don't answer my phone. He's been dealing with this for years. He'll tell stories about throwing up behind 3rd base in the middle of college games. (I'm sure the other players really appreciate that, btw.) He tries to act like it's normal or normal for him, or he'll blame it on other things, like "I've just got a lot of congestion" but I know it's not normal and not healthy. Now, I just have to figure out the right way to approach it (again).
Well please let me know if there is anything at all I can do to help. I do understand where he is coming from. I just always assumed that it was just my personality and it is something I will have to live with for the rest of my life. I think you should definitely try to convince him to get some help. There is a much better life out there for him!
Seriously though, if you want to show him what I typed, have me email him, or anything to help your cause I will be more than happy to. Nobody should have to live their life like that, especially when there are ways to help.
I googled GAD and read through the articles that showed up. I included the link that I felt described best what it feels like to have it. Maybe this will help you figure out if it is what is going on or maybe show it to him and see if it helps.
http://helpguide.org/mental/generalized_anxiety_disorder.htm
Good luck!