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After sex

novia2011novia2011
in Sex & Romance

I couldn't find anything related to this but I would like to know, what normally happens right after sex? Is there more cuddling, do you leave and go to the bathroom, do you just go to sleep? I'm just interested because I don't know if there is a norm and I'm interested to see how you guys go about it.

i've only been with my husband so to me, what we do is what we do, so i can't really say this isn't normal. he's picky about feeling clean so he all but jumps in the shower, only because he just came from the shower before bed, but deep down that's all he really wants after. I don't know if it bugs me, but that's why it makes me wonder what happens after in other people's relationships.

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  • lydiajcleavelandlydiajcleaveland
    Usually when we're both done, we flop down on the bed side by side, not touching because we're both feeling too warm. Then we clean ourselves up with the roll of tp we keep by our bed (we don't have to worry about getting the bed messy, since we have a nice throw we can easily wash frequently). Sometimes we talk or snuggle a little longer, other times we leave to go to the bathroom, and then go about the rest of the evening.
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  • dnykaydnykay
    I have had different experiences (each ex was diff) but my current bf and I will lie next to each other. Either I snuggle up to him, or he does to me. Sometimes we get up and shower together, other times, we just fall asleep. Honestly, it makes me feel closer to him and usually leads to round two! (sorry if tmi)
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  • egott25egott25
    I personally get up and go to the bathroom, otherwise I'm bound to get an infection! 
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  • marigoldgirl44marigoldgirl44 member
    With my XH I got up right away to go to the bathroom. But sex with him was not very good.  Current BF sex is beyond fantastic and when we are done he holds me closer than ever and we lay there until our breathing returns to normal. Then if its night we go to sleep. If its morning we get up and go about our day.
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  • dnykaydnykay

    imagemarigoldgirl44:
    With my XH I got up right away to go to the bathroom. But sex with him was not very good.  Current BF sex is beyond fantastic and when we are done he holds me closer than ever and we lay there until our breathing returns to normal. Then if its night we go to sleep. If its morning we get up and go about our day.

    Is it me, or doesn't that make the relationship that much better?! I've never had a bf that would hold me afterwards the way he does.  

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  • kellyt89kellyt89

    we'll clean up and I'll go to the bathroom pretty quickly but then we'll usually lay there together and talk or cuddle. I'd love to just lie there and cuddle with him but I'm soooo paranoid about getting a UTI. Every once and a while we'll take a shower together and that's a lot of fun :)

    It was pretty much the same with my X but the sex was awful (due to vaginismus issues) so there was a part of me that just wanted to get the heck out of there.

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  • marigoldgirl44marigoldgirl44 member

    I agree it makes it that much better. For me it confirms that even though sex is over he still can't get enough of me.

    I have been lucky and have not ever had issues with UTI's and such so the need to use the bathroom is not as necessary for me as others. 

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  • DancingLikeTheCrackers17DancingLikeTheCrackers17
    I also agree that cuddling after makes it really nice.  DH is the only man I've ever been with, so I have nothing to compare it too.  But, when we're done, we often lay there cuddling until our breathing slows.  Then we'll get cleaned up and come back to bed for a little more cuddle time before going to sleep.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6
    It depends on what time of day it is, but we generally do clean up right after and then we'll go lay back in bed and cuddle, or sometimes we just go about our business. 
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  • shelovesfrodoshelovesfrodo member
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    We usually cuddle for a while, mop up copious sweat, and maybe talk a little bit. If there was a lot of *ahem* "byproducts," DH goes and cleans up and I make sure to go to the bathroom within a couple hours (of course, being pregnant, taking a leak right after is a much more common occurrence.). Sometimes, if my hair was in need of help beforehand, I'll take a shower so I don't feel greasy.
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  • magpie1127magpie1127
    There have been quite a few times after a particularly awesome round of sex when I could tell my H just wanted to cuddle, but I always go to the bathroom IMMEDIATELY because the longer I wait, the more likely it is that semen will start dripping from me as I walk to the bathroom (not attractive or pleasant)! I really want to just cuddle with him-anyone have advice on this?
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  • sncbridesncbride
    When Fi are done who ever was on top usually lays there kissing the other. Or if it was doggie we just plop down. Lol. But then we clean up and go on our way I'd its during the day or lay back down and snuggled if its at night. Fi is a big snuggler though so if were not in a hurry he always wants to curl up on the couch or in bed. I don't think I've been with anyone that needed to clean up right away.
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  • marigoldgirl44marigoldgirl44 member
    imagemagpie1127:
    There have been quite a few times after a particularly awesome round of sex when I could tell my H just wanted to cuddle, but I always go to the bathroom IMMEDIATELY because the longer I wait, the more likely it is that semen will start dripping from me as I walk to the bathroom (not attractive or pleasant)! I really want to just cuddle with him-anyone have advice on this?
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  • marigoldgirl44marigoldgirl44 member

    imagemarigoldgirl44:
    imagemagpie1127:
    There have been quite a few times after a particularly awesome round of sex when I could tell my H just wanted to cuddle, but I always go to the bathroom IMMEDIATELY because the longer I wait, the more likely it is that semen will start dripping from me as I walk to the bathroom (not attractive or pleasant)! I really want to just cuddle with him-anyone have advice on this?

    sorry cat hit post before I had a chance to write, Anyway I would keep a couple of wash cloths to use by the bed. Then one quick wipe and your cleaned up with out getting out of bed. 

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  • rhythmicgoldfishrhythmicgoldfish
    i always get up to pee ... yes it kills the snuggly post coitus mood but i would rather kill the mood than get a UTI
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  • justanamejustaname
    Straight to the shower for both. We shower together and clean each other off. I feel like it is sort of a bonding activity. And I make sure to use the restroom as I am super prone to UTIs. After the shower we usually snuggle and  I don't feel like intimacy is lost with this order, might just be me though.
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  • Mrs.MasieMrs.Masie

    It definitely depends on the time of day we have sex. But assuming its at night, in bed, we will go clean ourselves up (all but taking a shower) and then lay in bed, cuddle and fall asleep.

    There's no science to this. You do what works for you.

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  • PixieChinchillaPixieChinchilla member
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    We always have a towel next to the bed that we grab to catch the mess. We spend maybe 2-3 minutes cuddling, and then I get up and go straight for the bathroom, because I get UTIs very easily. Then, we take a shower together to make up for not being able to cuddle in bed for very long. It works well for us.
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  • MrsCrystalKMrsCrystalK
    Like many women have said, after sex we'll cuddle for 2-3 minutes and then I get up and go pee (I also get UTIs VERY easily) and hubby comes in and cleans up with a washcloth. Then we head back to bed and cuddle and talk or watch TV or whatever.
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  • Bees EverywhereBees Everywhere
    Sometimes we cuddle a bit (but we're both usually sweaty.) I always pee soon after (UTI) sometimes we go back to what we were doing before or shower separate or shower together.
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  • novia2011novia2011
    Thank you everyone for your responses. Now i don't feel what we do is completly out of the ordinary. We do cuddle a little because normally we can't move as quickly right after and then we go about our own ways of cleaning up. I do wish we would cuddle a little more but after cleaning, all we want to do is sleep.
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