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I'm I super sensitive or are ppl getting ruder? (vent)
So DH went back to night shift this week at work. I hate being home alone all night and now that we're "home" I can have friends come over and hang out (I didn't really make any friends in our old town). I was fb chatting with a friend last night and we made plans to have her come over and watch movies and have some girl when DH went to work at 7pm.
This morning I got a text from her saying that she didn't feel well and had been throwing up since 11 and was going home to sleep the rest of the day so she couldn't make it over to hang out. I get on fb tonight and her status is "Convertible ride at night. Pretty excited!" posted at 8pm. And her earlier in the day right (around the time she texted me) At brunch box with new boyfriend.
Ugggg, I value trust VERY highly in any relationship and it really hurts my feeling that this so called really good friend would tell me such a bald face lie. I'm I just being overly sensitive? How would you deal with this confrontation? I would have a really hard time not saying anything. IMO its pretty stupid to lie to a friend and then make a bunch of post about how much fun you are having. I wish I was a boy and could just punch her in the face! haha, just kidding, kind of... I would never really do that 
Re: I'm I super sensitive or are ppl getting ruder? (vent)
Are you going to ask her about it, or just leave it?
IMO people Are getting ruder. It is much easier to lie and not do something than actually doing it. But lying to a close friend? Pretty lame.
I hope you had a good night anyway!!
My DH is on night shift ( 10pm to 6am) at well at the moment. I stayed up SO late last night watching reality TV. Very naughty of me.
I don't know. I'm would have a really hard time not saying anything to her. It really hurt my feelings. I was raised old school and if you have plans with someone you don't ditch them one something else more fun comes along. What would you ladies do?
I did still have a pretty good night. A friend wanted my to make her daughter a pillow case and tie blanket for her naptime at preschool. So I worked on those and watched a chick flick.
That, or you are a really good friend, just tell them - Hey, I know I have plans with you, but would it be horrible if we moved to a different day. This guy just asked me out and I really think this can be something... and if it's not, we can always laugh about it the next time we hang out...
I would confront her about it, but there is a risk that she will just lie to you again, and change her FB status for you to not be able to see anything she ever posts again... that's what a childish person would do. So, it's up to you... still I think I would mention it somehow.
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That's really sucky! ?Was she a good friend? ?I can't imagine anyone lying about it like that. ?It's not hard to ask a friend if you can just change the day of your plans. ?
That being said, I am super non-confrontational, so I probably wouldn't talk to her about it, but I wouldn't be friends with her anymore. ?It's a pretty ridiculous thing for a grown woman to feel like she has to lie to her friends, so I wouldn't bother with her anymore. ??
Okay, I have a "friend" that does this ALL of the time. So often in fact, that DH and I use her name as a verb synonymous with ditching. It really used to bug me a lot because I was also raised in a house where if you made a commitment with someone, you stuck to it. However, this particular friend has always done things on her own convince and doesn't see how it's hurtful when she bails at the last minute for a more exciting opportunity. She used to cancel on our plans literally minutes before and straight up tell me that something more exciting had come up, and then of course offer me to join her in that activity, which often involved more people, most of whom I didn't know.
I used to get really upset about it, until she started saying recently, "Oh, we haven't hung out in forever! We should hang out soon." I took this as my opportunity to reply something along these lines: "Well, you let me know the time and place because unlike you, at least you know that I'll show up and keep my plans."
Yes, a bit b****y of me, which is usually not at all my style, but honestly, that's what got through to her. She is just the type of person who doesn't really take into account how her actions will affect others, and hearing a bit of her own medicine made her quit.
Since this is a one-time deal (so far) with your friend, maybe I wouldn't take it quite as far as I did. But I would tell her how hurt you were by seeing that she had canceled your plans for other ones. Say that the next time she wants to cancel plans, she owes you as much to tell the truth.
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