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New to this site, I need help PLEASE!!!
Okay, I am new to this website but I need to talk to other ladies about this. So I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4.5 years. He has only made me orgasm ONCE! yes, I know. When I masterbate, I am able to orgasm with no problem. When we are getting intimate, there is no problem. When we have sex, it feels great but i have never had an orgasm when we do it. I'm attracted to him and all that jazz. But when he tries to make me orgasm, nothing happens. And lately we've tried to talk about it and what to do differently but nothing comes out of it. He is getting really frustrated about it and so am I because he feels that it is him. I tell him what to do, but i dont say enough when we are actually doing stuff. I am a very shy person in general, but i dont know why I get shy when i talk about sex stuff with him and we've been together for so long. Also, we do the same thing over and over. I try to look for new positions and different things to do but we never do them. I'm afraid that if this keeps happening, we wont be together anymore and I dont want that to happen. So I need advise on what to do. Thank you so much for reading this and helping me!!
Re: New to this site, I need help PLEASE!!!
Unless you get over the hump (no pun intended) of getting down and dirty and showing him what feels good, you'll be in sex limbo forever.
Why not go "mmm that feels good mmm right there" -- you should be comfortable with that, wouldn't you?
You and he shuld also go to a mainstream book store and check out the how to sex manuals that are sold there. Borders and B&N and many sell them.
Well, if you can orgasm when you masturbate, introduce elements of that into your sex with him. Do you use a vibrator when you're going solo? Use one while he's plowing you. Are you thinking about shirtless firemen when you're by yourself? Imagine your boyfriend as a shirtless fireman while you two are going at it. You say he touches you down south; TOUCH YOURSELF. Don't make him totally responsible for it.
Also, if he can et you most of the way there orally BEFORE any penetration occurs, you've got a much better chance of having an orgasm during sex.
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