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Life is moving on
For those of you who are not in the email group (which I think just about everybody is now!), Wade and I separated. It's a long story, but I moved out on Friday. I'm living with two of my residents (kind of weird, but it's working out. It was ok'd by my boss and our Regional). I'm doing a lot better than Wade is. He texts me all day long. I saw him yesterday at the house, and it was pretty hard. The house has got to be so big and lonely now that Bridget and I are both gone. I've begged him to ask his sister to move in, but he refuses. I'm going to the house tonight to dog sit, and then I'm going to his race on Thursday and his half-marathon on Saturday. We'll see how things go. For now, I'm going to try to get to know myself again and figure out what I want in life.
I'm actually really enjoying the company of my new roommates. They are both male, but it's going ok. Wade was surprisingly alright with the situation. Unfortunately, they currently live in a 2 bedroom, and I don't have any three-bedrooms available until June. So, I'm sleeping on the couch/air matress for a few weeks until we can get into the bigger place. So...that's the short story.
ETA: Nothing about this on Facebook!! We have not told our families about the separation yet.
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OMG I'm sooo sorry to hear about this! I had no clue (can I get added to the email group?? I am rarely on TN anymore and feel so out of the loop....)
T&P go out to you... I hope this all works for the best for the both of you.
Megan, I hope you figure things out during your time apart. I think whatever the result (getting back together or moving on) it will help both of you grow as individuals and if you get back together it will certainly help your marriage. If you decide to move on, it will make you ready for your next relationship.
Good luck, and let me know if you need to talk...you know where I am :-)
Claire said perfectly. Thinking about you!
Ditto this.
I hope that you will both be able to grow and figure out what you want for yourselves and as a couple during your time apart.
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I agree. I am sorry to hear about this.
Lots of hugs to you. I hope that you are able to figure out the things that you need to and that you can move forward (in whichever direction you choose).
My sister recently did this with her husband of 7 years. They lived apart for 7 months or so and they both grew up a little, learned about themselves, and what they were looking for. They have since moved back in and are still working on things, but life is a lot better for both and for their kids.
We have also seen examples from strong independent women on this board who chose otherwise (because the circumstances led them to do so).
My point ... whatever you decide to do next and in the future can work out should it be moving back in or not. However, no matter what, we are all here for you and will support you!
I also couldn't have said it better myself. ((Big Hugs))
Claire really said it best-- you know where to find me as well. I'm thinking about you!
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I was thinking about you Friday, wondering if the move had really happened. You know that I'm here for you anytime you need me...day or night, it doesn't matter! It has been a blessing for me to know others who have been through what I've been through, so even though our situations are very different, you know I'm here for you if you need me!!
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Megan I thought about you alot over the weekend. I hope your doing ok. I know that no matter what comes out of this you will be a stronger person and you and Wade will both find happiness.
If you ever need a friend I'm here for you. Hugs!
You ladies are truly my rock(s). Thank you all so much for the support. And for thinking of Wade, too. I know he needs it.
This morning is a little rough. I don't know if it's a mixture of sleep deprivation or that it's finally hitting me or what, but I just want to sit and cry at my desk. But, I won't. I want to write a blog post, but I think it'll make me burst into tears and that's not good for me right now. I'm going to leave work a little early today, so I have that to look foward to.
I will keep you all posted. I'll probably post my blog link soon, too. I only have a few posts at this point. Love you ladies...I really do.
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