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Almost One Year
Ok, this is an old tired question, but can you believe it's almost been a year sine our weddings?? Does anyone even recall the panic/stress/excitement of this time last year...the "final three months"?! haha
It feels so long ago, yet I also can't believe that the first year of marriage will be under our belts soon enough.
It's not like so much has changed; we lived together before we were married, and we are still the same people of course, but even so, it's amazing how fast I adjusted to a new name, and then we just bought our first house, and we've begun to discuss children more comfortably (neither one of us is ready...we're on track with the 3-5 yr plan, but we're able to get a bit excited when it's just the two of us talking abt it...shhhh don't tell!) All that stuff makes me feel really grown-up and proud you know?
I feel we've grown closer too, actually. Don't know if that would've happened anyways, but it feels like there is a very clear distinction that we are our own family.
Has the first year of marriage brought you any little surprises or changes? Or am I a sap? haha
Re: Almost One Year
I totally agree with the feeling closer thing. I know in my head that it's not different, we were committed to spending our lives together before the wedding so that didn't change with the ceremony, but it still feels different. I love being our little family, and can't wait to get pregnant and start growing into a bigger family.
My best friend gets married in almost exactly a month. It's fun to talk to her and re-live all the fun moments (she's just finishing putting together their ceremony, and she's getting a Quaker signing board made as their guestbook), without the stress of having it be my own wedding.
I hope everyone else is having a great first year!
It feels like I've been married forever, yet at the same time, it seems like the wedding wasn't that long ago... if that makes any sense.
I guess it's just because we've moved forward a lot in the past 9 months. I got a new job, and we bought a house, and we've been remodeling the house. So much of time has been swept up in all that it seems like time is flying by.
It's a little disappointing that the time has gone so quickly, and soon we won't be newly-weds, but it is also exciting that now we are married, we can move onwards and upwards, as a unit rather than two individuals.
In our household there hasn't been too many changes since getting married, we lived together beforehand, and I didn't change my name. However, I do feel that extra level of commitment and security. Although sometimes I slip up and call him my Boyfriend instead of my Husband!!
It is crazy to think that we are almost coming up on a year!! To me though we are gong to be celebrating 9 years together this month, and that make me more "aww struck" that the one year marriage thing lol! I almost feel like we've been commited to each other for so long - that how long we've been together is almost more important than when we "made it official." Don't get me wrong - I am so excited for our anniversary and I really hope that we are able to plan a fun little get away for the two of us!!
This past year has been full of change for us! My DH (finally!!!) finished up school, got a job in a different state that required us to move, we finally feel like we're living for once - as opposed to just scrapping by due to being in school, and we've got a baby on the way! So many things have happened since we've gotten married, and we have so many things in the near future to look forward too. Life just keeps looking brighter and brighter :-)
I also agree that I feel as though my DH and I are closer since we've been married. Even though we lived together before getting married and have been together for a while now, I feel as though my DH struggled to consider me a part of his family before we were married. I feel as though there was a little switch that went off in his head when we did tie that knot that made him realize - She's now my Wife, which means we really are family. It's been really sweet seeing him put two and two together. Something of course, I've felt all along... but everyone comes around in their own way :-)
Ah, I think about this daily. It amazes me that DH and I will soon be married 9 months in a few days. It's been a super-fast year because I still feel like the wedding was just last weekend. It's weird because all the planning seems like it happened years ago but the wedding still feels very current.
This has been an extremely hard year for us, at least financially. I know life doesn't happen all in one instant, but we're really hoping for DH to get a good pay raise in the next few years. Also, a lot of my friends (and remember, I'll only be turning 24) have bought super nice houses and are talking about starting families. I'm mostly envious about the homes -- I can't for the life of me figure out how they're affording these 200K+ homes (pretty nice for our area) right out of college. These aren't doctors. They're payroll workers and retail people. Beats me. I wanna know their secret.
Life is exactly the same for us. We still have the same routine as before the wedding, we just have a piece of paper that legally binds us to one another. But, as others said, there is a greater sense of security in the relationship now. We always considered ourselves a unit before marriage but it's nice to have others recognize that we are indeed a family.
Do the creep.
Wow. It has almost been a year, hasn't it?! Ah! We'll be in Mexico for our first anniversary! Yay! Finally going on our honeymoon a year later! I can't wait to go because I honestly feel like we missed out on that "newlywed" experience. We just came home after our wedding and got on with our lives. I'm hoping that our honeymoon gives us a little bit of the newlywed spark that I feel like we missed.
This isn't to say that we aren't happy at all; I just feel like we missed out on that time to just spend with each other not worrying about bills or work or gas prices. I feel that we are a lot closer now, but not too much about our relationship has changed. I have had to become much more relaxed with my standards of clean and organized because DH is... well... a pig. I have gotten used to taking care of him, a house, and a dog, but it's been mostly fun. We don't hardly ever fight and I love that I can go to sleep next to him and wake up with him every day. Since we didn't live together before getting married, this is probably what I love the most.
I can't wait to see what our future holds!
Isn't it crazy? I can't believe how awesome the last year has been.
And I totally made "It's not a boy (or girl!)" cupcakes for work on our 9 month anniversary to commemorate our success in not getting KU on our honeymoon. (I'm sure there's some karma waiting to kick my but when we actually do TTC)