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**beewitched**
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Repeat Csection, if it comes to that....which I know is kind of irrational but still.
I didn't realize that you had a C-Section the first time around too. I would assume you're planning for a VBAC then?
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I had a pretty difficult time with my C-Section as well. I felt like I had a tough recovery (most likely from the long terrible labor beforehand) and that's my main concern the second time around. The thought of having a hard recovery with a 3 year old and a newborn to take care of does not appeal to me.
I'm worried to try a VBAC though, because of that same fear that I'll just end up having another C-Section anyway.
butting in! I had an emergency c section after laboring for 9 hours with my DD. So this is my biggest fear!! I am on the fence. Schedule a C or try for a vbac and possibly end up with a C again?
I hear ya. If I have to have another csec I'll deal with it but I'm not looking forward to having to care for Lucas and the baby and myself. Just the whole "trying" for a vbac is a big part of my anxiety too. Either way will be fine, I got through it the last time but to think about it freaks me out.
We have a dr apt next week that I plan to get some straight answers out of her. She said that I would be fine to try for a vbac and would give me until 41 weeks, but they scheduled me time in the OR for 39 weeks and some days. I told them that that day wasnt good for me and I wouldnt be able to show up :P I just want to know an exact plan and I know that that is almost impossible.
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"My recovery was terrible. I don't want to go through that again. Maybe it just had to do with the fact that I labored beforehand though, and it won't be so bad if I just schedule a CS and go right into it "bright eyed and bushy tailed".
My Dr. has actually supported this thought by saying that the recovery period is a lot harder on the uterus after it's been allowed to contract and labor, so in theory a scheduled surgery wouldn't be as bad. Let's also factor into that the fact that if you were actually dialating, pushing,etc before the CS, you've got the recovery from that area as well that wouldn't factor into things with a scheduled surgery.
Oh blah. I just don't know.
this is exactly what my ob said to me. and in theory it sounds nice. blah!! I actually had an easy c section the first time around, no problems no pain. I worry this time will be awful with a 15 month old and a newborn and very little help. But I do like the aspect of a plan. And what if I want to have another child. Multiple c sections back to back are scary!
That does make sense. Lucas is 15 months right now and I cant imagine having to chase him around. He is starting to become a good listener so hopefully in a few more months it wont be sooo bad. He just has so much engery and it will be the end of the summer for us and he loves to be outside. I must say that most of what is freaking me out is them cutting my scar, I dont know why it bothers me so much it just does. Im sure everything will be fine, it is just one of those big up in the air dont know the right way to go questions.
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I hear ya! I haven't made a decision either way yet. But I worry about it everyday lol
I can completely relate to this feeling. To this day, 2.5 years after the surgery, I still feel tenderness in that area from time to time and I feel like I'll always have the sense of wanting to "protect my scar" like a man protects his nuts or something...lol. Terrible analogy, I know. Anyways, I'm with you. The thought of letting them cut into that scar again just mentally freaks me out and makes me want to be sick.
I lurk there too sometimes. Some of the info is helpful. But some of the women on there are really, I dont know what the right word is....passionate maybe. Some of them I get the impression that they think their drs "mangled" them unnecessarily or that their drs did it to them on purpose. IDK I've only gotten that impression a few times in some random posts. There isnt anything wrong with being informed or and wanting what you want but in the end I chose my dr because I trust her to do the right thing by me and the baby's health.
And I totally protect my scar like I imagine I would if they were nuts
haha
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