August 2006 Weddings
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Brookles
Hi Alisha... thanks so much for checking in... I really appreciate it. Nesties really are the best at being supportive via the 'net.
I'm holding it together, but only moderately. I've been trying to keep busy, but so far it really, really sucks. Plus, I feel guilty, because he took one of our dogs and the other one seems sad and confused.. guess I'll have to spend a lot more time with her.
It's nice hearing about people who've made it through... any more divorce/separation advice?
Nesties were a huge support for me too. My local girls even through me a happy divorce lunch when it was final.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dogs! That has to be so hard. She'll get through it though, and so will you.
My best advice is just to deal with it all however feels right to you and don't worry about what others think or you 'should' be doing, within reason (crying over sappy movies and ice cream, ok, drinking every day and cutting yourself no).
I think the first few months are the hardest. I spent a lot of time just cleaning, organizing and walking around the dog park. I couldn't really sit still to read or watch tv. And I talked to my mom a LOT. She's been divorced twice and was a lot of help. Its been almost a year for me since we split, and its still weird, but the emotionally hard parts seem over. Now I'm adjusting to the whole single again, dating, etc issues, although I've hated dating so much I'm just enjoying single life for a while. I figure someday, I will meet someone I actually want to date, and I'd rather have my alone time now and get my head on straight. I met my ex when I was barely 21, and we were together nearly 10 years. I've never lived alone, and never been single, so I think its good that I spend some time doing so. And I think its important to make sure you are really determining your life and what you want out of it instead of just letting it happen...which is how I ended up in the crap marriage!
If you ever want to talk, my email is aoh613 @ gmail.com
Thanks for your email address... I will definitely take you up on that, if it's okay. I've gotten a ton of support from IRL friends and awesome Nesties but it would be nice to hear from someone who's gone through this recently.
It must've been so odd to live alone after being together for such a long time, and I give you mad props for having the strength to get through it. I lived alone for awhile before H and I got together, and I always enjoyed it, so while this definitely sucks, at least I know I can someday settle back into being happy by myself.
This is going to sound stupid, but I really wish this had happened in the spring. I hate being cold and the time change... although I suppose I'd probably be just as much of a mess if it were warm and sunny out.