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High school graduation gift
How much do you give?
If you know that the kid is spoiled, would you give less?
If the kid is poor, would you give more?
Do you give more if they are going to college?
Re: High school graduation gift
How much do you give? probably about $15-20 (we are a little broke right now)
If you know that the kid is spoiled, would you give less? No
If the kid is poor, would you give more? No
Do you give more if they are going to college? No
Because of our situation I gave $25 to my cousin last year. This year my little sister graduates, so I need to come up with something.
How spoiled? Does the kid take advantage of it and acts like a brat, or do they just have well off parents that can afford the nicer stuff? If the kid treats everyone like crap because they are spoiled then that would play into my gift. If they are well off but would still appreciate the gift and use the gift responsibly, then I'd still give what I could afford.
Does that even make sense?
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How much do you give? it depends on how well i know them. if it's like a coworkers child or something, like $25 maybe? $50 for family and closer friends
If you know that the kid is spoiled, would you give less? no
If the kid is poor, would you give more? no
Do you give more if they are going to college? honestly, i'm not sure I would give money if they weren't going to college...but, every grad party i've been to has been someone graduationg from hs to go to college or from college to like med school. depends on the kid, but i'd wonder what the heck they need money for if they're just going to live at home and do nothing.
Parents are not well off and I've heard them complain about money in the past. The kid isn't a brat, BUT has always gotten whatever they wanted.
Right now money is VERY tight for us. I have money set aside for gifts (graduation, wedding, baby shower) but I kinda need to tap into those funds to pay our bills.
I feel like the gift isn't to help them in their new endeavor, but to congratulate them for accomplishing something (finishing HS). However I kind of feel that same way about my cousin's graduation next week. He is not going to college, will stay living at home and probably shouldn't be graduating HS (I swear he is barely literate). It makes me sad to congratulate him when he didn't really accomplish much, but just really was moved along in the system.
i get what you're saying. maybe it's my upbringing and maybe i'm a spoiled biotch and totally living in a bubble...but we were expected to graduate high school. we didn't really get congratulated for it...it was something we were expected to do and the congrats were more for moving on the college.
cluvs- i think a card is perfectly acceptable if you're tight wiht money. seriously...a heartfelt note and maybe $20 sent once they're away from home goes a long way.
Don't do more than you can afford. As a person who has had more than my fair share of graduations I think it is nicest for people to just recognize the accomplishment even if that means I only got a card from them. Me feelings were seriously hurt when I graduated for the 4th time and no one even got me a card and my mom told me "Oh it isn't a big deal". I didn't expect money I just wanted a little recognition that I had accomplished something.
No I totally get what you are saying. I honestly don't think finishing HS is that big of an accomplishment anymore. I think too many people make it into something bigger than it should be. It really should be expected of people.
I've honestly never been asked to a high school or college graduation party that wasn't for one of my friends. Guess I don't know that many older kids.
I think I'd just do a card with maybe an Itunes giftcard or something. If you have time you can look on the giftcard discount sites -plastic jungle or something. They have walmart and target ones all the time.