CT student banned from prom...WDYT? (clicky poll)

melissa4252008 · May 2011

Cliff notes version of the story: Student and friends taped paper letters to the side of the high school building asking a girl to the prom. The students were suspended for a day, and are no longer allowed to go to the prom. What do you think?

The seniors are now organizing their own prom.

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ammorgado · May 2011

Not necessary. I didn't watch the video, but if it's straight with what you described, there's no need to ban him from the prom. They weren't drunk, didn't use spray paint....just paper letters? Something easily cleaned up? It's just not necessary. This isn't something that you make a statement with.

melissa4252008 · May 2011

Yep, just paper letters.

asf619 · May 2011

Before watching video: The students should have been made to clean it up, and maybe serve a few days' worth of detention for temporarily defacing school property. But, I don't think that what you described warrants being banned from attending prom.

micheleNYC · May 2011

Ok I watched the video and yes, he was technically trespassing so suspend him for a day, give his friends detention for a day or two but c'mon. This is ridiculous. He has apologized, he was so careful to use cardboard letters, nothing permanent.

Ridiculous to ban him from prom. Yes there need to be consequences and they suspended him, isn't that enough? Does every kid who gets caught spray painting get banned from prom? B/c that's worse than this.

Kris&Jay08 · May 2011

With all the things that are going on in and around schools these days, this should be the least of their worries.....I did not watch the video, I don't think I have too and I'd feel the same way.

smbd · May 2011

I did not watch the video, but read an article about this earlier today.

While I do think being banned from prom is a bit much, he's being banned b/c the school has a policy that says if you're suspended any time after 4/1 of the given school year, you forfeit your opportunity to go to prom, so I stand by the school's decision. I'm SURE every student in that school knows that is the school policy. He could have asked her a week earlier and not been in the situation that he's in.

Ali9381 · May 2011

I guess I was in the minority here but even at my middle school if a student is not academically elligable or has any suspensions, they cannot participate in any end of the year activities. Maybe being suspended for that was too harsh to begin with though?

sajigirl · May 2011

smbd:
I did not watch the video, but read an article about this earlier today.
While I do think being banned from prom is a bit much, he's being banned b/c the school has a policy that says if you're suspended any time after 4/1 of the given school year, you forfeit your opportunity to go to prom, so I stand by the school's decision. I'm SURE every student in that school knows that is the school policy. He could have asked her a week earlier and not been in the situation that he's in.

This. It is very sucky and seems overreactive, YES. But the school has a policy in place for a reason. And if one kid gets away with it then it opens the door for other problems down the road with other kids suspended for seemingly innocent things.

asf619 · May 2011

I get the school's policy about suspensions/academic ineligibility and being barred from year-end events. I don't think he should have been suspended for this. Detention, yes. Suspension, no. I am a firm believer that the punishment should fit the crime, and I don't think this one did.

SusieBW · May 2011

asf619:
I get the school's policy about suspensions/academic ineligibility and being barred from year-end events. I don't think he should have been suspended for this. Detention, yes. Suspension, no. I am a firm believer that the punishment should fit the crime, and I don't think this one did.

ITA with this. I don't think he deserved to be suspended for something so benign in the first place. FWIW, I think what he did was a really sweet way to ask her to prom. Smile

pjscooby · May 2011

smbd:
I did not watch the video, but read an article about this earlier today.
While I do think being banned from prom is a bit much, he's being banned b/c the school has a policy that says if you're suspended any time after 4/1 of the given school year, you forfeit your opportunity to go to prom, so I stand by the school's decision. I'm SURE every student in that school knows that is the school policy. He could have asked her a week earlier and not been in the situation that he's in.

And I agree with this..BUT..I think the punishment was a bit over the top for what he did. He shouldn't have been suspended, thereby not falling into this category.

Schools are almost being too harsh lately, like they're trying to make examples of good kids.

In a school nearby to me a kid was suspended because he showed up to school on horseback. Now, you should know, the town is a HUGE equestrian town. It's very hoity toity and there are like 2 golf courses and about 50 horse farms and a very well known polo club. Very upscale. It was school spirit day and the kid dressed up like General Patton (Patton is from this town and they're VERY proud of it) and rode into school. He was suspended. Eh???

micheleNYC · May 2011

pjscooby:
smbd:
I did not watch the video, but read an article about this earlier today.
While I do think being banned from prom is a bit much, he's being banned b/c the school has a policy that says if you're suspended any time after 4/1 of the given school year, you forfeit your opportunity to go to prom, so I stand by the school's decision. I'm SURE every student in that school knows that is the school policy. He could have asked her a week earlier and not been in the situation that he's in.
And I agree with this..BUT..I think the punishment was a bit over the top for what he did. He shouldn't have been suspended, thereby not falling into this category.
Schools are almost being too harsh lately, like they're trying to make examples of good kids.
In a school nearby to me a kid was suspended because he showed up to school on horseback. Now, you should know, the town is a HUGE equestrian town. It's very hoity toity and there are like 2 golf courses and about 50 horse farms and a very well known polo club. Very upscale. It was school spirit day and the kid dressed up like General Patton (Patton is from this town and they're VERY proud of it) and rode into school. He was suspended. Eh???

So what policy did he violate by arriving at school on a horse???? I agree, it's ridiculous these days what kids get suspended for. I guess that's my thing - this kid broke a rule but not a suspension-worthy rule I guess if that's what makes him barred from prom.

pjscooby · May 2011

Their reasoning...it's the equivalent of bringing a loaded gun to school. And I was wrong, he was dressed as a squire. I thought it was Patton, because that's their school mascot (The Generals). But still...kinda silly.

ked77 · May 2011

This story has been the #1 story on the evening news for days! I don't think he should have been suspended either and actually on the news last night they mentioned that the town itself is looking into the matter because the school might not actually have jurisdiction over the incident since what they are essentially punishing him for is trespassing on town property.

sajigirl · May 2011

I should say that on the matter of him being suspended for the actions, I disagree. I think they totally overreacted and were wrong. But because he was I agree with the decision to not allow him to attend the prom to keep in compliance with the policies.

pjscooby · May 2011

sajigirl:
I should say that on the matter of him being suspended for the actions, I disagree. I think they totally overreacted and were wrong. But because he was I agree with the decision to not allow him to attend the prom to keep in compliance with the policies.

Ditto!

melissa4252008 · May 2011

ked77:
This story has been the #1 story on the evening news for days! I don't think he should have been suspended either and actually on the news last night they mentioned that the town itself is looking into the matter because the school might not actually have jurisdiction over the incident since what they are essentially punishing him for is trespassing on town property.

Interesting!!! I hadn't heard that.

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