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Seems like it goes in one ear and out the other.
Hey everyone I am having a problem and I need some help. All yesterday I felt sick couldn't keep anything down and I was running a fever by the end of the night I was so sleepy. I slept in till about 1 o' clock and when I got up my fianc? was getting ready for work. I sat down and grabbed our laptop and opened it and there is was looking back at me. Hentia if you don't know it anime porn. We have come to an agreement that unless I am on my period he won't look at it. May seem strange but, we have our reasoning for this.
That is the last thing I wanted to see this morning. This isn't the first time this has happened and when I bring it up it seems like it goes in one ear and out the other. I hate when he does it cause it makes me feel like he doesn't want me. How do I talk to him and make him realize that i hate when he looks at it. The worst part of it is he brought it up in a secret window he just left it open. He tried to hide it. I honestly don't know what to do. I am so in love with him but, it's coming down to me sexually or the porn.
Re: Seems like it goes in one ear and out the other.
1. Figure this out before you get married. Is porn a deal breaker or not? If it is is he ACTUALLY willing to stop?
2.He's now already broke your 'rules', what did he say about the lying? (the porn for me would be the least of the worries, how does this change the trust?
3. Why is it okay when you're not having sex during your period but not okay other times when you might not have time for sex? You might want to figure this one out. Are you okay with him masturbating when you're not on your period? If so why is he only allowed to use a 'turn on tool' at this one specific time? (you might have a good reason, who knows, but you'll kinda want to know it before you talk to him).
Hmmm tough call.
I think you guys need to have a serious talk about it if its that important to you.
Alot of times womens adversion to guys looking at that kinda stuff is insecurities they have with themselves, feeling like its taking away from your romantic love life, or in cases being scared that its starting to take over a portion of his life.
You have to ask yourself what it is about it that you dislike so much, and tell him. Reguardless if you "let" him or not, guys fantasize all the time, all day long. My husband isnt even your typical lets do it every day type libido guy, but I know he looks at that stuff sometimes, I know he takes care of business etc. If he was doing it all the time, and not showing me any affection, sure I would probably not like it all that much, and question him on it.
However, if we have the same romantic love life, and I feel satisfied and attractive to him, then it doesnt bother me that he is into that.
Maybe once you talk to him he can re-assure you a little more, sort of explain what he sees in it...and who knows, it might open a whole new chapter for you guys.
If not, you have to ask yourself, is this really THAT big of a deal to you, that youd lose someone you obviously love because of. If it is...give him an ultimatum...if it isnt then just put it out of your mind and accept him looking at it from time to time.
(that is unless he is looking at it obsessively and its sort of becoming a problem for him)
Uh ya. Learn to communicate before you get married.
That is all.
How is being sick different than being on your period? Either way, you're out of commission. That seems to be the 'agreement', right?
And btw, it's hentai, not hentia.
Part of me wants to say the actual porn isn't so much the issue as the lying or hiding is.
But the other part says, you may be putting irrational or almost near impossible restrictions on him that are setting him up for failure.
For me, being told what I can and can't view feels like being told what I can and can't eat. I try to eat healthy because I like the way it makes me feel. I try to avoid porn because I don't like the way it makes me feel. So far, I am not perfect at either of these, but I don't let anyone else get involved. DW has never told me what to eat or watch, and vice-versa.
I do think he owes you an apology for lying to you, though.