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Sister Wives - Why is it Illegal?
Just a random thought here. I was watching Sister Wives last night and as much as I would't want to be a Sister Wife, I don't understand why it's against the law.
Does it really matter to "the law" how many wives that guy has?
On a side note - do you think it should be against the law? (I don't, but I'm interested to hear other opinions).
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Re: Sister Wives - Why is it Illegal?
i think a big thing (besides the whole moral issue) are things like health insurance and all that. i mean, if people were allowed to just marry anyone they wanted, they could really defraud the whole insurance industry. now, i'd love to stick it to the insurance companies just like the next person....but i can see this being a huge issue if it were legal.
in their situation, only one wife is technically "married" to the dude...but the other pose as wives and live like wives. and basically, there are common laws in some states that will state that if u live with somoene long enough you're considered husband and wife. so, if Utah is like that, he could technically end up with real wives at the same time.
i think it should be illegal...but i think it should be a state level issue, like gay marraige (for the record, i do support gay marraige).
i'm just not sure why it should be LEGAL i guess. opens a whole can of worms...property division in cases of divorce, child support, child custody...etc. ugh!
I'm not a family law lawyer-- but as best I understood it, most martial restrictions come from the idea of wanting to "protect" society by enforcing certain mores and morals (in the States and Europe, most coming from the Judeo-Christian ethics). The logic has, traditionally, been 'hey, it's important to the State to have/promote functional families... when you have a family w/ conflict (e.g. two wives fighting for H's affections) it's likely bad things will happen (e.g. one killing the other, children being jealous/bitter/violent toward half-siblings, etc). In society such "bad" things are usually things that detract from orderly, economic affairs. For example, you can't be tilling the field, if you're busy fighting. Or, if people, are busy engaged in 'blood feuds' w/in their own family, it's going to detract from their ability to put energy/time into contributing to society.
I'm not defending the custom (or offering this up as my personal opinion), it's just this is what I was taught regarding various marital restrictions (age, consanguinity, etc) in law school. As you can imagine, many of the 'values' are antiquated and/or not reflections of our modern society (ie including non-Judeo Christian types).
That's interesting. I never thought about it from an insurance perspective, but I guess if they aren't legally allowed to be on his insurance it wouldn't be a big deal to me.
I also never thought about it from the fighting perspective. That does seem antiquated since divorce seems to be so common now anyway.
I'm sure I have a skewed view anyway since I've only seen this one family on this one show, but it doesn't seem like they're doing anything that in my mind I would consider "illegal" in the harmful since of the word.
I also don't understand why they're moving since it's illegal in all 50 states, from what I've read.
Oh, for my own, personnel opinion-- only restrictions that seem reasonable to me have to do with age and mental capacity (ie ability to consent).
I should add-- that's for civil marriage. I think religions should have an absolute right to put whatever restrictions they'd like on marriage. So, for example, I think it's swell MA permits same-sex marriage (civil); but fully agree the Catholic church (for example) should be able to say, not in our church-- if that's their prerogative. Whenever I hear legislators discussing what churches should be allowed to do, it completely freaks me out.
That's my personal take-- on a larger level, I agree w/ Bucks-- civil marriage should be a state issue (not Federal).
I agree with you on this 100%.
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