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WWYD?
I have decided after much consideration to take another job offer at another company. I plan to give my notice to my current job today. This is a very scary and exciting time/decision for me. I've been here over 11 years.
I'm not sure what to do as when to do this today. I keep stalling b/c my boss is an a@@hat and can like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I feel like I need someone to tell me what time today is good to approach him about this and how I should start the conversation. I've NEVER had to do this before so I'm totally lost. I need some moral support!!
Re: WWYD?
Just hold your head up high, be firm and just explain that while you appreciate the time and opportunities the company has given you, you have decided to make a change in your life and have accepted a job elsewhere.
Keep it short and simple. You can do this!
Find a time when he's going to be in his office for a bit. Make an appt if you need to. Go in and tell him you found a new job and your last day is X. If he presses for details, you can simply tell him you got an offer you couldn't refuse.
Have a letter of resignation available. Your boss may want it, or he may ask you to give it to HR. It doesn't have to be long. Just a statement of your resignation and when your last day. HR just uses it as paperwork to show your employment dates.
If your boss is that bad, be prepared for him to ask you to leave today (it happens).
GL. It will be fine.
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My boss has never (not in my 11+ years) let anyone stay past the time they give their notice. I hope he continues that b/c I would rather just go home now.
I would like to stay on good terms but that's going to be up to him. He has a habit of flipping out and screaming; I don't want to deal with that. If it gets too bad, I will try to keep as calm as possible and just say I'm going to leave now. I've gotten all of my work items together that I can think of, as well as my resignation letter. I'm just nervous. More so about his reaction and how he will take it. I think I'm going to try and talk to him as soon as he gets back in his office.
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I agree with the PPs that just be prepared going in-keep it short and sweet & have your letter ready. Even if your boss asks you specific questions, you aren't required to tell him anything you don't want to regarding where you're going next, etc.
I did this 2 weeks ago-today is my last day. My boss is unpredictable as well, but it went well. I think she had a feeling this was coming so it helped.
Good luck and congrats on your new position!
The conversation started out much better than I could've ever expected. He was begging me for the majority of the conversation to stay, asking me to reconsider, etc. I didn't back down though. The conversation was great until....
He asked me how time I was giving him. In the 11+ years I've been there he has sent EVERY.SINGLE.PERSON home as soon as they quit, that's what I expected him to do to me. I even told him that and his response was "I need you to give me at least 6 months to try and get someone in here and get them trained". I sat there with my mouth wide open and honestly told that was a bit unfair and unrealistic to ask for. I wasn't prepared to stay any longer than that day at that point. He was bullying me and not backing down off his 6 month request; once the conversation started turning downhill, it was all over. He became belligerent and was screaming. This continued until after lunch; he decided to start calling me names and making comments such as "you're acting extremely unprofessional not giving me 6 months time" and just kept yelling. I didn't back down and sat there and just kept my mouth shut while he made a fool of himself.
By the end of the day, he was back to being nice again. His last comments to me were "you're leaving on a good note. If things don't work out, call me". Like I said, Jekyll and Hyde. I'm relieved its over and even multiple coworkers told me they were happy to see me stand my ground w/ him b/c he takes advantage of everyone. I was tired of spending my days walking on egg shells w/ him, getting screamed at, being accused of things that I didn't do, and him just generally taking full advantage of me and everyone else there. I know in my heart this was the right thing to do, and so far I don't feel anything other than pure happiness. I'm a firm believer that what goes around comes around, and maybe now he will realize (though no one will hold their breath) that he can't treat people so nasty like he always does.
Thank you to everyone for the support and words of encouragement. I don't know if I could've done it w/out the sweet and kind words!!
Wait, you didn't offer 2 weeks notice?
I tried, he wouldn't accept it. He told me its 6 months or nothing, so I took nothing. I can't expect the other job to hold this position open for another 6 months when they have no one in it right now and haven't for 2 weeks. I tried to negotiate the time w/ him but he absolutely refused. He is a bully and since he wasn't getting his way, he started screaming at me, calling me names, and he was acting like a child. It was his fault; I was willing to give 2 weeks but he wasn't willing to accept it so what choice did I have?
Like I said, he is completely unreasonable and when he doesn't get this way he makes a huge scene. I don't feel bad b/c I tried my best to do whatever possible to help him out, he just didn't want to accept it.
I'm just really curious about what kind of job you do that he feels 6 months is appropriate?
Good luck on your new job!
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^This. I am expecting to get an official offer tomorrow afternoon and while I am hoping I will be able to give my current firm a month, I know it may well be 2 weeks and there is nothing wrong with that.
I was the "fabric of the company" according to him. I handled ALL of the billing, accounting, payables, receivables, collections, service, scheduling, tech support, customer service...you name it, I did it. He was using the 6 months to try and scare me into staying. It didn't work. He kept trying to tell me that any real professional would give 6 months when leaving a management position. News flash for him, though. I wasn't management, never was, and he had no intention on changing that. He only wanted to scare me, and when he saw it wasn't going to work, he became belligerent so it only made the situation worse for him.
I love the new job so far and am sooooo glad to be away from his dictatorship!