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Howdy Strangers!! (Kinda long)
Sorry I haven't been able to frequent this board as much. My free time I've been a PI of sorts to try to trace this adoption trail for John's brother. We found brother's adopted mom who unfortunately hadn't seen him since 1992 when he was 21. She is willing to share information but not a lot at a time - it's asking her to dig into her painful past 2. So the search continued. (If you know of anyone looking for adopted family members - I've found a lot of FREE resources and would be happy to share - one of these is utilizing search angels - groups of people who are like PIs who use their info soley to help adopted family members and adoptees reconnect for free).
Unfortunately - we just found last weekend that his brother's latest address as of 12/10 is a homeless shelter in Milwaukee. 
John is still processing all of this. He is sad and also feels guilty because he ended up with a great family and has led a "normal" life and his big brother wasn't adopted til he was 9 and just never really felt like he belonged anywhere even tho his adopted mom tried the best she could. John is going to try to call the homeless shelter this weekend to see if brother is still there and if so if contact can be made - possibly through an intermediary. We obviously don't know what state he will be in.
We are hoping that finding his long lost baby brother (according to his adopted mom - it was pretty tragic for him that they were separated) will be a positive thing in his life and may lead to a better path. We are also praying that any defense mechanisms he might have developed to deal with all the drama he has been through won't be dangerous or emotionally scarring for John (or Luke and me). Will he be resentful of John or just so happy to see him? Or both? Will he be so bitter that he can't accept love? It's all so sad.
All the other members of the birth family that John has made contact with are wonderful and are so glad that he is a renewed part of the family. The birth mother has tried to contact him too but he has no interest there in that connection.
Anyway - that's been the main focus of our world the last month or so. It's amazing how quickly one lead can have a ripple effect on information. The rest of life is just same ole same ole. Luke is almost 20 months and is so much fun.
I've read back thru a few posts just to catch up. Hope everyone is doing well here! 
Miss you gals!!
Re: Howdy Strangers!! (Kinda long)
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